Wierd Sh!t People Say to Pregnant Women

cubluebride

So far, the best I've heard this pregnancy:
1.  "Was this expected?"
2.  "Already?"

1 - yes, this was expected and planned dumb-ss. I'm not 16 at prom.

2 - My son is 17 months old. He will be 23 months when the new baby is born.  That doesn't warrant a shocked "already?" IMO.

What's yours?

sroby

"I can give you the number to WIC, that formula is expensive".     Ummmm, okay, we make way more than they obviously think we do.

My favorite was my boss's comment in an e-mail to a vendor when I was pg with E, I think I got a little grouchy towards the end.  This was done jokingly btw:

"Thanks Matt.  Sroby is expecting her first child and I would hate for you to get the wrath of Sroby.  Maybe that would be alright now that I'm thinking about it; it would take some of the heat off the rest of us around here."

julandjo

"But Julie, WHY would you do this to yourself?  Don't you know that kids are expensive, and hard work, and they will ruin your marriage?"

- my grandma

"We decided not to throw you a baby shower since your pregnancy is high-risk.  We are going to wait, because your baby might die" followed by hysterical laughter.  

- my aunt. No f*cking joke.  It's been 6 years and I still can't forgive that b!tch making fun of my situation.

Haven1

The sh!t people say to twin moms is really off the charts. I've blocked most of it out, but all versions of " oh, was this natural or did you take a bunch of drugs like Octomom?" were my faaavorite.

hskrmommy

I think the weirdest thing I heard with B was "I thought black was supposed to be slimming?" when I was 8 months pregnant wearing a black sweater.  Who says that?  Ya, honey, I'm TRYING to look thin right now, can't you tell?  I wish I would have been thinking on my toes and not taken aback so much because she was wearing black, too.  I know, not as insulting, but certainly not something I expected from another MOTHER!

brynners

"Are you sure you're not having twins?"

 

"I just figured out today that you're pregnant!"

- at 8 months pregnant and +40 or so lbs 

AJ103187

When people find out if that we are having twins, they always ask if we took fertility drugs or if we planned on having twins. No, and no. Having 2 was a total shock, and totally natural.

My favorite is from SIL- "Please tell me you aren't going to gain a lot of weight, I can't have fat people in my wedding!"

Ashnkris

"But you're so tiny. Oh well, it will all catch up to you in the end!" I was gaining wt just fine per my dr and do people really wish huge wt gain on others?? 

My boss used to tell me (RIGHT after I threw up for the 5th time in the morning) I should really be taking better care of myself and eating more. She used to remind me that she was never sick so she didn't really believe it was associated with being pregnant. She was 6weeks behind me in her 3rd pregnancy and she was the expert on all things pregnant.  

Tops on my list would be my grandma asking if DH is the right one to be starting a family with!! Weird thing is she likes him. Who else would she expect me to start a family with?! 

+ShannonB+

Something along the lines of "AGAIN?!  Don't you know how this happens?"  I sure do, I take fertility medication!

Oh and people are shocked that I wanted 1-2 more after Delilah, since I already have one of each.  Apparently having more than 2 is only for people who have all of one gender.  

julandjo

+ShannonB+:

Oh and people are shocked that I wanted 1-2 more after Delilah, since I already have one of each.  Apparently having more than 2 is only for people who have all of one gender.   

DH and I get this a lot too.  "Why would you adopt?!  You already have one of each - be thankful for what you've got."  Uh hello!  We ARE thankful and we want to parent more than 2 kids.  What's so strange about that?! 

katie00224

First question, out of the blue, from a complete stranger in the baby aisles at Target: "So, are you going to BF?" I was already irritated and told her I was certain that was non of her damn business

luvjon

A stranger asked me at Von Maur if I was "feeding from the boob".  I just said yes to avoid any judgement, but I was FF.  Who says boob to a stranger?

njh514

I try to be pretty careful what I say. Nothing really bothered me when I was pregnant. I am one of those who will ask about breastfeeding but I'm very careful and it's to tell them that if they have any questions, need some help, need to vent, etc. that I'd be super happy to help them and be their support system. It usually goes like this: "If breastfeeding is something you're interested in, I'm pretty into it and I'd love to help you if you ever need anything, have any questions, or just need to vent. It's tough work and nobody expects you to do it alone." But I'm sure someone will be offended because that's the way people are, even when you're trying to be helpful.

kagibbons13

My boss said to my pregnant coworker, "Are you afraid that this baby won't be as cute as J?"

Ok, I've never been pregnant, but I'm pretty sure that is not something you want to hear!

Oh, and my boss has also nicknamed my coworkers baby "Spike."  She did this both times she was pregnant!  Weird!

njh514

Oh! I thought of one that I thought was odd. I actually had several people ask me how much weight I'd gained. These were complete strangers in check out lines and such so it's not like they knew what I looked like before. I always just told them I didn't know because usually I didn't know for sure. I just had an idea but I didn't feel the need to start that conversation.

 

I think it's stranger to ask how much my baby weighs. I guess that's a common thing for moms to discuss. Like when my neighbor that I never talk to saw me getting the mail while she was taking her trash out and said, "Oh my! She's really growing. She's really cute. How much does she weigh?" Umm... I'm not sure. You can see her. You know she looks healthy. Why would you want to know how much she weighs? But a lot of people talk about that so maybe it's just my ignorance to it? I dunno.