Help me get over this.

asilsjf

I'm in a class several nights a week (from 6-11 p.m.), I work three jobs, I'm a big sister for big brothers big sisters and I run and maintain my household.  I'm busy most of the time.  If I'm not busy, I like to bake (it might have something to do with the kitchen Aid mixer DH just bought me...but I digress). 

At class last night, one of the girls (I say girl, because I think she's 20--please tell me that I was not like this when I joined the boards) said she can't believe I have time to bake (I broght smores brownies to class last night), and that she wishes she had time to bake.  If she had said it once, it would have been fine, but she kept saying it it.  Like, when I do well on a test, she says stuff like "well, you have time to study".  I get that she's a student and she has a job, but so did I-- quite fankly I'm busier now than I was in college, but this isn't a competition.  And I make time to bake, because it's relaxing to me.  I don't go out partying and drinking.  So I could make the same comment about how I don't see how she has time to do things like that.

Any ideas on what I can say to her to get her to STFU?

BlueLikeJazz

"Baking is a priority to me.  I make time for it.  Just like I make time for school".

Or just smile and nod and don't respond at all.

ELCJet

Just keep topping the curve on your tests and don't even listen to her anymore.  You have way more going on than she does and you don't have to explain anything to her! 

HuskerLissa

"I make certain things priorities in my life.  Due to your rude comment, no yummy smores brownies for you. Buzz off biatch."

shanbrite2

For people who say similar things in a nicer way about sewing projects, etc., I just say "Everyone has their "thing." What's your thing? Hiking, skiing, hanging out with friends?" I think it helps people to realize that I make time for sewing because I LIKE it, not because I'm trying to show off. But she does not sound so nice, so maybe a more blunt way might be better here (plus, I hate confrontation!).

velocitygrl

She's probably just feeling stretched and stressed, and wonders how you do so well in class AND still have time to bake.  Its jealousy and she's probably justifying to herself why she isn't doing as well as you.  Don't let it get to you- just keep getting As.   What she thinks doesn't really matter.

andrealynn0707

Next time just send the brownies to me, and you won't have to listen to her being dumb. I'm a good friend like that. YWIA.

d&jb52407

andrealynn0707:

Next time just send the brownies to me, and you won't have to listen to her being dumb. I'm a good friend like that. YWIA.

 LOL!

You are a super spouse with all of your ducks in a row (kudos!) and she's still growing up. If you want to say anything to her, it might be along the lines of that you just make time for the things that are important to you and while school is a priority, baking is theraputic.  She may or may not get it.

DruidPrincess

Pass her the No-Doze or whatever else is the latest OTC crack and wink.

goldenjes

I'd say, "Some people like to go out and drink.  I like to bake.  We all do what we really like."