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spent Valentines Day with (STBX)H

I haven't been around in awhile, but you may remember that I was struggling with the fact that I may have rushed my decision to leave the marriage and was really doubting myself.

I've been in therapy, etc and really took some time to be completely alone and sort my feelings - admittedly still working through that.

He and I have been on good terms for about 4-5 weeks, and have gone on two dates leading up to Valentines Day.

We're taking things one day at a time and not putting any pressure or expectations on anything.  We want to move at our own pace and just do what feels right for us.

I'm really happy with where things are today, right now, so I'm staying in the moment.

 

Hope all is well with everyone!

Re: spent Valentines Day with (STBX)H

  • I don't know any of your story, but this is so nice to hear.  Glad you are working it out.  And even if (worst case scenario), things don't work out, at least you'll know you did everything you could to save your marraige.  I hope it continues to get better for you!
  • Thank you! We were married in October 2010 but I had a significant death in my family in September 2010 and with that came a bit of a mental meltdown that i wasn't really aware of until recently. I took everything out on my husband and left him in June.

    It was a few months into therapy alone and living on my own and being separated from him for six months, that I finally was able to grieve the death and get a hold of myself.

    We've been doing well the last monthish. I know we still have a long road ahead of us, but its progress so I'll take it. Also, as you said, i'll know this time that I've given it a fair chance and given all that I can. We'll see where we end up.

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