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CaliopeSpidrman

I didn't know John Lennon had hit Yoko until Fenton mentioned it the other day on FB. 

Christin -- I think you should stop weighing yourself and just stick with weigh ins when you go for your doctor visits.  Otherwise you're going to obsess.  And I think telling your families aftering hearing the heartbeat seems a-ok.  I think I would tell my parents at 8 weeks but wouldn't tell siblings until 12.  But you should not tell your sister.

buddhagouda

ChristinS:

Congrats Bethie!  Gotta love a new scale.  I keep weighing myself everyday.  I can't decide if this is a bad idea or not.  I don't know if it's bloat, but I seem to be consistently up about 2 pounds.  I suspect bloat because it keeps changing.  I don't feel like I should be up at all at 6 weeks.  And I have a question for you all, if we see a heartbeat at my first appointment, is 8 weeks too early to tell our families?  I feel like once they see the heartbeat with an internal I should be pretty safe to tell.  No?

Your body immediately starts producing more blood and other fluids, so 2 pounds is not anything to be stressed over. As long as you are still eating well, you will be fine. Your body has to put on some weight to do what it needs to do. 

We told our families before we even saw the heartbeat. We just waited until 12w to tell the general public because I was irrationally afraid of jinxing it somehow. 

salimoo

CaliopeSpidrman:

I didn't know John Lennon had hit Yoko until Fenton mentioned it the other day on FB. 

Christin -- I think you should stop weighing yourself and just stick with weigh ins when you go for your doctor visits.  Otherwise you're going to obsess.  And I think telling your families aftering hearing the heartbeat seems a-ok.  I think I would tell my parents at 8 weeks but wouldn't tell siblings until 12.  But you should not tell your sister.

Agreed. You should wait until at least your 26th trimester to tell your sister.

Kamikaze3

oklagirl:

People who can't see the difference between Rihanna singing about enjoying rough sex and being beaten up by her boyfriend have probably never experienced either.

Yes exactly. Liking it rough in bed sometimes does not mean that I would be ok with my husband punching me in the face. How do people not see the two are totally different? I am not surprised by the fact that people were giving him a standing ovation at the Grammys. I mean people still want to work with Woody Allen and Roman Polanski. People are messed up man.

And yea Bethie, congrats!!

boxerfan

Christin, I remember reading that the percentage of miscarriages that happen after you've heard a heartbeat is significantly lower (although, i can't remember the exact numbers), so I think you're fine to share.  But, I told my family as soon as I found out, and put it on fb after our first ultrasound, so take my advice with a grain of salt. And yes, don't tell your sister.  Maybe wait and let the baby tell your sister.

scienarasucka

Christin, we told our folks right around 8 weeks, right after we saw the heartbeat. Just be prepared for them to blab. Mine were incapable of keeping a secret.

TSD

Kay- what's wrong with your back? I'm 37 and I can't stand and talk to moms in the parking lot of E's school for more than 10 minutes before feeling intense pain and ruining my day. It's very annoying. And painful.  

I had to defriend someone on FB because he came to my page, after I posted the pic with Taylor Armstrong, specifically to tell me that domestic violence is an "industry" (whatever that means) and most likely she was lying. Then he continued to push and attack on the subject continuing to insinuate that most DV is lies.

All those posts on twitter like, "I'd let chris brown beat me anyday- he's so hot" were vile.

 

ChristinS

See, telling our families is like telling the general public.  Neither of our mothers will keep it to themselves.  Not a chance.  So, as soon as our parents know, you've got about an hour for D's mom to spread the word to his 7 siblings, 6 in laws, and 20 nieces and nephews.  With my mom, it will be a couple of days, but I will start hearing from aunts, cousins, etc.  the *** of it is I am closest to my dad and really want to talk to him, and he will be SO (jazz hands) happy, but D thinks its unfair to not tell them all within the same 48 hour period.  Or at least that's what we agreed to do.  I am at a loss with the sister thing.  D says tell her in a quick email so she hears it from me.  I say screw that hose beast!  She will never meet my child.  Or something.  Anyways, if the see the heartbeat and confirm that the sac is not somehow up a tube or attached to my ***, we will probably tell.  And Buddha,you make a good point about the weight.  I am full of blood!  It's not the pizza I ate last week.

HappyTummy613

We told both sets of parents and my H's siblings fairly early--6 weeks or so.  I think we are going to try to wait longer next time around.  When I had that bleeding at 7-8 weeks and thought I was miscarrying, I was upset that I had told people and felt weirdly embarrassed about potentially having to un-tell them.  I'm not saying this was a rational way to feel, or that anyone else should feel that way, but given that I did feel that way in the past, I'll just appease the crazy part of my brain and wait until the end of the 1st tri.  Of course, that plan might fizzle now that we live close to SIL and BIL and see them multiple times a month.

This is reminding me of what I hated about my 1st tri paranoia.  With every little twinge or gas pain I would be all, "IS SOMETHING WRONG OMG WHY IS THERE NO DEVICE THAT ALLOWS ME TO SELF-CHECK MY HCG LEVELS EVERY HOUR SOMEONE PLEASE JUST GIVE ME SOME CERTAINTY."

 

On a completely unrelated note, I'm nosily interested about whatever scandal occurred on WW recently.

CaliopeSpidrman

D is wrong.  DO NOT TELL YOUR SISTER.  That would just give her an opportunity to make more drama.  It's time for you to start using the phrase "in my condition" to get out of things like that.

So since your families can't be trusted to keep it a secret, the question is do you mind if everyone knows if you miscarry?  (You're not going to miscarry, btw.)  Would they be the people you'd want to lean on for support or would you rather keep it to yourselves?  If it's the latter, wait until 12 weeks.  If it's the former, tell your parents at 8 weeks.

HappyTummy613

Add me to Team Don't Tell Your Sister.

jens_a_ten

Christin is pregnant?! WHERE DID I MISS THIS??? Man I am on the Monday couch on this one.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

mashedpotato

jens_a_ten:

Christin is pregnant?! WHERE DID I MISS THIS??? Man I am on the Monday couch on this one.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

she only told the pretty girls with a great sense of style.  I guess you didn't make the cut.

 

sorry, I'm bitter

WendyToo

I told family and friends right away with Connor and I wouldn't do it much differently next time. I'm ok with telling people i'm close to if something happened though. 

Novemberrocks

With Miles we told families right away.  As in, Jason called his mom and dad at 7:30 in the morning the moment I saw the positive pee stick.  I don't think we'll be that excited next time around.  And honestly, I don't think my MIL wants to know that early.  Keeping a secret for 6 weeks was torture for her. 

Congrats on the loss Bethie!  Woo hoo!

I'm super cold today and have no idea why.  I'm also feeling super gaseous and it's annoying me.  

L_Woods

I just tried typing stuff about the WW drama but I felt squiky talking about it no matter how benign I tried to keep it, like I was somehow tattling/spreading drama or something.

ChristinS

I don't really know who I would want to know in the event of miscarriage.  I guess it's one of those situations I'd have to be in to know how I felt.  Meh.  Of course, I just ate a ham sandwich at a lunch meeting, so this baby is going to get listeria.  Or I will.  Whatever.  I feel dumb.  I was halfway through my sandwich before I remembered I'm not supposed to be eating this.  I'm not very good at this.

jens_a_ten

mashedpotato:

jens_a_ten:

Christin is pregnant?! WHERE DID I MISS THIS??? Man I am on the Monday couch on this one.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

she only told the pretty girls with a great sense of style.  I guess you didn't make the cut.

 

sorry, I'm bitter

Excuse me,  I need to get into the fetal position in this nice corner and weep.

JERKS. ALL OF YOU.

Vinny2008

L_Woods:

I just tried typing stuff about the WW drama but I felt squiky talking about it no matter how benign I tried to keep it, like I was somehow tattling/spreading drama or something.

Will you at least link it?  I have a pile of work staring at me and I don't want to touch it.

wingedbride

EssBe:

wingedbride:

At the same time, I feel awkward about the canonization of MJ after all the child molestation stuff. No one ever made as big a stink over him because he was the king of pop.

I think there's a big difference considering MJ was tried and acquitted (and was never indicted the first time).

Chris Brown has been tried and convicted, and is still on probation.

Bethie, you are awesome!  That's really great.

Yes, well, I a lot of people are wrongly convicted and wrongly freed. And Sandusky has not even been tried yet and people were calling for his head on a platter and to be fired- rightfully so. But, when Michael was booked for events and awards shows before trial that was not the general consensus. It's just skewed is what I am saying.

_Fenton

salimoo:

Really, the whole thing left me speechless. And every time someone tried to argue, it became "Women deserve equal treatment AND equal blame!" and "It was three years ago, who cares if he performs at the grammys?" and "John Lennon hit Yoko Ono once, you hypocrites!"

I brought this up on Fitty's FB page as more of a question I was thinking about rather than a beating-women-is-OK thing.

And he didn't hit Yoko once, he reguarly beat his wife before Yoko, but then felt bad about it later.

BobLoblaw

L_Woods:

I just tried typing stuff about the WW drama but I felt squiky talking about it no matter how benign I tried to keep it, like I was somehow tattling/spreading drama or something.

LINK PLEASE.

 

Thanks so much guys, mean it.

wingedbride

ChristinS:

I don't really know who I would want to know in the event of miscarriage.  I guess it's one of those situations I'd have to be in to know how I felt.  Meh.  Of course, I just ate a ham sandwich at a lunch meeting, so this baby is going to get listeria.  Or I will.  Whatever.  I feel dumb.  I was halfway through my sandwich before I remembered I'm not supposed to be eating this.  I'm not very good at this.

I have eaten cold cuts and soft cheeses both pregnancies.

I told my family later, as you all know. But, the percentage of successful pregnancy after seeing the heartbeat is in the upper 80s or 90s, so you are pretty solid there.

And while I understand it is certainly more likely for a 1st tri miscarriage, there are all sorts of things that can occur during a pregnancy at any point or during delivery, so I think you just have to go with what feels right for you.

I would not tell your sister.

And ditto buddha on the blood volume. That is also why, if you haven't already, you are going to start peeing like it's your job. All that extra blood makes you pee more.

buddhagouda

jens_a_ten:

mashedpotato:

jens_a_ten:

Christin is pregnant?! WHERE DID I MISS THIS??? Man I am on the Monday couch on this one.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

she only told the pretty girls with a great sense of style.  I guess you didn't make the cut.

 

sorry, I'm bitter

Excuse me,  I need to get into the fetal position in this nice corner and weep.

JERKS. ALL OF YOU.

There there, Jens. Come sit over here with Buddha, and we'll watch Newsies and have a sing-a-long. 

_Fenton

ChristinS:

See, telling our families is like telling the general public.  Neither of our mothers will keep it to themselves.  Not a chance.  So, as soon as our parents know, you've got about an hour for D's mom to spread the word to his 7 siblings, 6 in laws, and 20 nieces and nephews.  With my mom, it will be a couple of days, but I will start hearing from aunts, cousins, etc.  the *** of it is I am closest to my dad and really want to talk to him, and he will be SO (jazz hands) happy, but D thinks its unfair to not tell them all within the same 48 hour period.  Or at least that's what we agreed to do.  I am at a loss with the sister thing.  D says tell her in a quick email so she hears it from me.  I say screw that hose beast!  She will never meet my child.  Or something.  Anyways, if the see the heartbeat and confirm that the sac is not somehow up a tube or attached to my ***, we will probably tell.  And Buddha,you make a good point about the weight.  I am full of blood!  It's not the pizza I ate last week.

My two thoughts on this:

Regarding your mom: You're lucky that Christmas card season is over.

Do not tell your sister. You owe her nothing. I support never letting your sister meet your kid because you don't want to raise a child to think the way she speaks to people is even remotely OK.

EssBe

Okay, what happened on WW?

All I can see is the roll calls.

salimoo

_Fenton:

salimoo:

Really, the whole thing left me speechless. And every time someone tried to argue, it became "Women deserve equal treatment AND equal blame!" and "It was three years ago, who cares if he performs at the grammys?" and "John Lennon hit Yoko Ono once, you hypocrites!"

I brought this up on Fitty's FB page as more of a question I was thinking about rather than a beating-women-is-OK thing.

And he didn't hit Yoko once, he reguarly beat his wife before Yoko, but then felt bad about it later.

Oh John Lennon did a lot of despicable things for sure, and I would welcome those facts in any reasonable debate.

The post I'm referring to is mostly full of strawmen like that and defense of Chris Brown's actions on the grounds of "Rihanna is horrible and must have done something to deserve it."

I don't care who listens to/hires/buys his albums. It's the justifications of "Well, we don't really know what happened, she could have threatened him first!" for listening to/buying his albums that are gross.

CaliopeSpidrman

_Fenton:

Regarding your mom: You're lucky that Christmas card season is over.

OMG I am so mad that we missed out on that golden opportunity.  Think of the possibilities!  I guess we'll have to wait to see what she comes up with next year.

salimoo

CaliopeSpidrman:

_Fenton:

Regarding your mom: You're lucky that Christmas card season is over.

OMG I am so mad that we missed out on that golden opportunity.  Think of the possibilities!  I guess we'll have to wait to see what she comes up with next year.

There's always Easter cards. Fetus with bunny ears anyone?

lindsayll

Phew, I'm so glad I'm not the only one on the Monday couch, Jens.  I was like "Wha...huh...???"

CONGRATS CHRISTIN, YOU SEXY MOMMY BEAST!!!!

Boxer, any person who can watch BOBB objectively (meaning: you know there's an angle - homebirth/midwifery - that they are going to work hard, just like Michael Moore) I don't worry about.  I think it may open your eyes, make you think a bit more about what you discuss with your OB, when you go to the hospital, etc.  But I don't think it will have you signing up for an unassisted birth and searching for placenta recipes.

That being said, if it does raise questions for you, and if you get a bad vibe from your OB when you bring up those questions, don't be scared to trust your gut and find a new provider.