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No Gift Etiquette
I was reading through my favorite blog and saw this post about a two year old's birthday party invitation. http://ourhumbleabowed.wordpress.com/2012/02/16/balloon-animal-birthday/ I thought the invite was cute. I scrolled down and started reading the comments and saw a mention of the no gift request on an invitation.
I've requested no gifts at my son's birthday. Is it not proper etiquette? I thought guests would appreciate not feeling obligated to buy a gift. What do you think about this?
Re: No Gift Etiquette
Hi! Welcome BTW. Just had two glasses of wine so please take my comments with a grain of salt.
I just clicked and read her invite... and it reads "no toys, clothes size 3T +" which I think is incredibly rude. That is not the same as "no gifts please "- which may not be proper etiquette - but at least asks people not to do something. In times past, any mention of a gift was not to be put on an invite. An invitation to a party is to celebrate something or someone not a business transaction!
If I was her friend and received that invite I would cringe and buy her son an outfit "whatever"... if I was her aquaintance and received that I would RSVP "no thanks" and throw it in the garbage.
GL.
The three on the invite are pretty simple variations of the same twists. She needs to get a pump though because those type of balloons are very hard to blow up manually.
I've heard that no gifts is rude because you are being presumptuous in expecting a gift. They don't really bother me. It does bother me when you dictate what someone is supposed to give as a gift (in this case clothes instead of toys).
Ha, I like your disclaimer. I just went back a re-read the comments. I've requested no gifts on invitations, but guests still brought gifts or called asking what they could bring. In a way, I think the request for no toys but clothes makes sense to eliminate the calls asking what guests can get. I've never been to a child's birthday where gifts were not given-even when requested.
And she said she gave the invitations only to immediate family, so I'm guessing her family understood. I definitely think it would be rude to give that to an acquaintance and I would throw it in the garbage.
I could understand this if it's just immediate family. I would be p!ssed if it was a friend.
I wouldn't even be happy if immediate family did this. If I'm close enough with people to invite them to my child's party then I will either trust their judgement or be blunt with them. My siblings and I know we will be buying gifts for our nieces and nephews. I will generally ask for suggestions, and I certainly wouldn't be upset if someone sent a seperate e-mail or something. I often appreciate the suggestions because it makes life easier. On the invite is the ultimate tacky though.
Re: I wouldn't even be happy if immediate family did this.
Me neither. That would rub me the wrong way too.
Re: I know my mom has a tendency to buy the MOST obnoxious toys possible.
Let her know gently... when it isn't appreciated. Before I had kids of my own I bought my nephew a foam sword and shield and little knight's costume at the Ren. Festival. I still hear about it...