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Would this be inappropriate to ask?
My new job I got offered is for twin boys who will be 4 months old when I start in April. The little boy I watch now part-time is 9 months. I'm really sad about leaving him, but we really need me to be working full-time. I was just thinking about ways around this, and was thinking if the new mom wouldn't care if I brought him with me or his mom dropped him off in the morning, I wouldn't charge any more/hour than I was and they could split it when he's there, which I added it up and it would save her between $120 and $185 per week, depending on if I had him 2 or 3 days (it switches back and forth).
Should I say something like, I just thought I'd check with you because it would save you money but absolutely no pressure if you don't want to, or is it inappropriate to ask since she already has two babies and probably doesn't want to add a third kid to the mix?
DH thinks I shouldn't even ask because then she'll feel pressured to say yes even if she doesn't want to.
ETA: Thanks for all the advice! I'm not going to ask, and right now I'm trying to decide between accepting this job or else saying no thanks and then looking for a job with one other baby who wants to do a nanny share.
4 losses: Blighted ovum 1/11, CP 12/11, CP 3/12, and our perfectly healthy baby girl Charlotte Grace, missed M/C 5/31/12 at 8w5d
Surprise unmedicated BFP 9/21/12!! Beta #1 9/22 (10 DPO): 46 Beta #2 9/24 (12 DPO): 226! Heartbeat 136 bpm at 7w! It's a BOY! Theodore Joshua 5/23/13 7:36am 7lb 13 oz, 19.25 in
Re: Would this be inappropriate to ask?
Youve watched twins before? Because you couldn't pay me enough to watch 4 month old twins +a 9 month old (probably on a different schedule.) 2 crying at once is bad enough...
I wouldn't want my nanny to have her attention so divided either.
I've watched three sets of twins; I've also watched twin toddlers and an infant, and worked in the young toddler classroom of a daycare, so I'm not so much concerned about myself, but whether she would be comfortable with it, but from the responses, I'm guessing she probably wouldn't! Just trying to find any way to avoid losing yet another baby
4 losses: Blighted ovum 1/11, CP 12/11, CP 3/12, and our perfectly healthy baby girl Charlotte Grace, missed M/C 5/31/12 at 8w5d
Surprise unmedicated BFP 9/21/12!! Beta #1 9/22 (10 DPO): 46 Beta #2 9/24 (12 DPO): 226! Heartbeat 136 bpm at 7w! It's a BOY! Theodore Joshua 5/23/13 7:36am 7lb 13 oz, 19.25 in
My friend does a nanny share and it works really well for the families and for her, because they get a reduced rate and she gets the full-time work. It is also really good for the girls because they get to socialize and learn so much from being around each other.
I would just pose the question in a way that eludes to an option of doing a nanny share if everyone was interested, but only if it is something they would want to pursue further and no obligation. It also would depend on where the 2 families live, the parenting style of them both, and whether it seems like they would be open to that.
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I think it's nice that you're so attached to your current child and don't want to let him go, but I wouldn't ask. Like Pesky said, they're probably aware of nanny-shares and would have gone that route if they'd wanted to. If I had twins, I think I'd want the nanny to focus all her attention on them (and would probably think that would be plenty). I think it might start things off on the wrong foot if you ask them.
[Sorry, I didn't see your ETA that you weren't going to ask!]