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Re: Oh, Baby! Wednesday
I don't have too much today. We are just getting ready to tell a few more friend's this week. I can't wait until next Thursday when we will finally be out! We have 6 babies (between family and friends) due from March to September and two weddings. It's going to be a busy time for us.
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Hahah I guess nobody has babies on the brain this morning.
I kind of wish I'd taken the day off today. And by "kind of" I mean "really really a lot"
I was really sad for one last night! I think it will end on both next week. From the previews it doesn't look good for either couple.
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I am going to have a one year old in 12 days and can't believe how fast it has gone bye.
Wow, that's a big deal! I got a first birthday invite a few days ago from one of my bridesmaids, and I still remember finding out she was pregnant. Time sure flies, huh?
clynn58, just wait--before you know it, your one year old will be graduating high school!
I saw a Pampers commercial this morning and I got all teary. It is so weird--I don't even want another baby!
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Just do it!
Stephie's got baby fever? What!? Heehee, just kidding!
It is so weird because I don't. But I am telling you so many things have happened that make me wonder.
Oh man....I just read something that really bothers me. Something else that is really bothering me is the gossip up here at work. It is out of control.
I need to remember to not worry about what I can't control.
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Just do it!
Work gossip is the worst, and I try to stay in my room and not interact with very many people any more. My life has become a little simpler thanks to it.
Happy Birthday, Angie, and congratulations on re-claiming your husband.
Wow Clynn how exciting. What are you planning??
Happy birthday Angie!
Stephanie, I think that's one thing I don't miss about my old job. It's crazy how ridiculous those stories can be.
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LOL.
Happy Birthday! Did you decide on a restaurant?
Hey Julie (and any other teachers), I posted this late yesterday, but do you have any tips on how I can get Melodie to remember anything? She cannot remember anything she has to do--like today, she only managed to remember to turn in her AP stuff at school because I texted her. Twice.
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Just do it!
I teach 6th grade, and I give my students planners to write things down in. Does she have a smart phone that she could set up to go off and remind her of things? Now, you may have to program them in for her, but it would keep you from having to text it to her. I hope that helps some, good luck!
I always seem to have the most outlandish advice and I'm hesitant to say anything but eventually she'll be in college and have a real job and won't have you to rely on for stuff like this and the repercussion might be greater later on. Could you possibly be hurting her more than helping her by always reminding her?
Does she have a planner that she can put deadlines in? Or if she prefers technology, she could use that instead...whatever will work best for her, which I think is important. Making me put things in my phone? Forget about it.
Maybe establish a routine before bed every night that she goes through her calendar to see what is due the next day and/or the week ahead, get everything in her backpack that she needs the night before and encourage her to check it again at lunch so she gets another chance at meeting deadlines if she forgot during the morning.
Shortgirl, I get what you are saying, totally about her just suffering the consequences. We bought her a calendar to write everything in and she is to check it the night before/in the morning, to see what she has coming up. Two guesses how that is working.
I just don't know what to do and Ben is about at his wits' end. He is less tolerant than I--he wanted to take away her gas money today if she forgot to turn her stuff in. I don't think punishment is the answer for this though really. It is something that we disagree on, definitely.
I have also wondered if she has ADD or OCD. I just don't know.
ETA: Shandars, she does have an I-phone 3 so maybe we could do something with that. That is a great idea, thanks.
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Thanks for the birthday wishes. I think we're going to try Hibiscus, but I don't know when. I think my brother might be planning a little surprise get together this weekend, because my mom spilled the beans and I haven't heard anything from him... but that'll probably be Saturday, so I'm not sure when we're going out with just me & J.
I just went to lunch with coworkers, and we stopped by my manager's house (nearby) to see her baby. She'll be 1 in a few weeks, and she's just precious... *sigh* the baby rabies are flaring over here, for sure.
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Stephanie,
I kind of agree with Shortgirl on this about letting her have some consequences (not Ben's consequences) but grade consequences. I find sometimes that some of my seniors are so busy that it's a miracle that they remember to go to bed or eat. I do allow some of my kids to enter their assignments into their smart phones towards the end of the period, but, if I give the assignment listings at the beginning of the class (like today), then they must at least write it down on a sheet of paper. However, color me jaded because I just lost a senior to our self-paced campus due to not completing work and having a 50 when I signed off on her withdrawal papers. And, I have a senior who missed two vocabulary tests and has not made them off and never came to ask me about them even though I approached him at least twice. He just re-entered my class because he failed the second semester of Latin II last year and has to repeat it now. He doesn't need it so I'm a little miffed that the counselor is forcing the issue. Sorry, that is more than you needed to know but this is my current issue (calling mom now to let her know he's failing for the six weeks).
Ugh, Julie, the grade consequences are hard for me. And those come from her procrastinating more than forgetting. But outright forgetting is a problem also.
Part of me has to let go too, I realize that. It is just so hard to do! Just you wait and see.
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
PS: I didn't want to come across as giving you parenting advice but, over on this side of town, helicopter parents are a big issue. I'm not saying that you are (in fact you seem quite the opposite), but I deal with so many parents who don't want their child to fail now because college is just on the horizon. However, they don't realize that college just makes it even worse for their child. Like, I know one of our counselors got mad at the Tech counselors for not sending home progress reports. I am flabbergasted that there are parents out there who really do this. Oh, and another one apparently called every morning to make sure that their child got up on time for their classes.
Happy Birthday Angie!
Stephie- The only thing that helped me was a small physical weekly planner. I just can't get myself used to entering things on my phone, it's always much easier for me to just jot it down in my planner. This is where I got mine, and it's so colorful it's hard for me to forget about it or misplace it.
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Julie, it's not assignments so much really--although she did recently forget to turn in a journal and got a zero in IB English but she had taken 2 Benadryl the night before and was totally woozed and confused that morning so I sort of forgave that. But then she procrastinated on 2 English assignments which she could not afford to do after that zero and I about lost my shiznet with her one night over that. She ended up with an 84 after all my ranting and raving.
It's more like: picking up the form she needs to renew her driver's license, turning in her AP test registration, writing down receipts in her checkbook, bringing home my umbrella she left at her dad's house, forgetting the password she needs to look up her SAT scores--that kind of stuff.
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Just do it!
Steph: I was a lot like Melodie when I was her age - I was often called "flighty" and "scatterbrained". My parents finally stepped back, and I had to learn a few things the hard way (ex: having to wait two extra months to get my license b/c I didn't do the correct paperwork/testing, getting a crappy dorm room assignment b/c I took my sweet time applying, forgetting science projects, etc). Nothing incredibly monumental -- but big enough for me to learn that no one was going have my back for the rest of my life.
So I taught myself a few tricks. It's funny because now people always rave how organized and on top of things I am -- when it's really not in my nature to be that way.
That's my long-winded way of saying that all of the things you mentioned are easy "Tough Love" lessons. Much better that she learns the hard way on those than something more important a few years down the line or in college.
I giggled over you using that word.
Can I just say that's just most teenagers? I have kids who leave their lunch in my classroom, left their AP forms and checks at home, etc. I think it probably is most annoying because she's a senior and she should be remembering those things. However, we have had many mamas come and pay for their child's prom ticket(s) on the last day (or even get our principal to approve selling them after the deadline), because their child can't remember anything.
Yay!!!
*sigh* I know you guys are right. Thanks. I think the other thing is that Ben gets so worked up about it all. Yes, you are right, that is ALL teenagers. Sometimes it is hard to be married to someone that is not a parent. He does great most of the time and I would never complain. But sometimes HIS stress over it adds to mine I think. I just need to chill out about it and we probably need to have a conversation about it also.
mnkate, that is great news! I am so excited about the Nestie babies we have coming up!
Angie, I know I told you Happy Birthday already on FB but I hope you have a great day! I can't wait to see where you have dinner.
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Just do it!