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julie324

 

So I am 18 almost 19 years old and very hapily engaged to my boyfriend of a year and a half. We are starting to get things ready for our wedding but because of family issues (His brother is in basic training for the army) we have pushed our date back to next spring ie 2012. This was totaly fine with my untill about a month ago when my single mother told me that she has started dating. More importantly she has started dating and plans on getting married sometime this fall. I am crushed her all i wanted was my families excitement for my wedding and all anyone can think about is the fact that she is dating. Is that wrong of me? I am very happy that she meet someone who makes her happy, but being raised in a family of 6 of which 5 are girls weddings are just about the only time a sister can be the center of attention. I feel robbed, now every time i look up wedding dresses and brides maids gowns she peaks over my shoulder and goes "Oohh that would be so cute, is it for you or me?". Now I know people will say that she's not even engaged yet and i should let it go, but just so you know she has been engaged to this man before as a teenager and both of them are dead set on getting married soon.

So I don't what to think or feel at this point, I want her to be happy for me and help plan things, but at the same time i am woried she will find something she likes so much she will just have to have it. What do I do? How should I feel? Any advice welcome

cinderin

next spring would be spring 2013. or is there a time machine involved?

if i were you i would get my own apartment/house/trailer. that way you can do wedding planning unencumbered (without mom looking over your shoulder).

seriously though. go to college for 4 years. by then everyone else will have all ready had their weddings (they might be on 2nd/3rd weddings) and you can have all the planning attention to yourself.  and maybe a brighter future? 

magsugar13

Oh, you poor little thing.

You really need to grow up and become an adult before you get married.

You should go  to your mom and throw the biggest temper tantrum you have ever thrown before. You know cry, stomp your feet, pound your fists, etc! That should get her to stop.

You have every right to expect the whole year to be about you and your wedding from everyone you know. Every dress shop should stop selling ,flower shops should close, etc. It should be all about the 18 year old beeebeee who is getting married a YEAR from now.

 

mmw&lmd

She's so ridiculous, but I can't help but feel a little bad for her.  I mean, look at her role model.  Smh.

oodakay

link to the original for those interested:

http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/63681322.aspx

 

TheGooser

Just in case you're looking for real advice, I was on the opposite end of that scenario. My mothers wedding was cancelled about 2 months before I got engaged, and I only had a 2 month engagement, so really it was soon after hers was supposed to be. She had a dress and venue deposit put down and everything. We had to get married quickly due to a potential deployment, so we didn't have a lot of choice. A few family members made comments about it being insensitive to have a wedding so soon after hers was cancelled, but you know what? It was the right time in our relationship to get married. We had to for reasons that were specific to us. What goes on in others relationships around you doesn't get to dictate when you get married. That goes for you, and your mom. Also, keep in mind that your mother is probably excited to share your joy. Cut her some slack.

Sisugal

Honey, getting married is not about the wedding nor being the center of attention.

Prepare for marriage not a wedding.

Both you and your boyfriend  need to be able to support yourselves (go to school, get skills, learn how to budget and buy what you need) you need to learn how to  deal with life's disappointments and challenges.

Wait - please wait.