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RonCourt

wickeesgirl117

I am so sorry to hear this. However, it is not fair to you to stay in an relationship where you are not being cared for and respected the way you should be. I'm sorry that your H does not see what an amazing person you are and preferred to philander than to spend time working on your marriage. 

You are not a failure! You are doing what is best for you, both emotionally and mentally. You are taking yourself out of a bad situation and while it does not seem like this now, you are INCREDIBLY brave and this will be a huge step forward for you. Starting over is hard, and doing it in a brand new (or unfamiliar) location is even harder.

You are being very courageous by being willing to take that step and get out of a bad and deteriorating relationship. YOU are important and taking care of you isn't a bad thing or make you a failure. I'd personally worry for you if you were going to stay in the relationship at this point after giving your H multiple chances to break it off with this other woman and work on his marriage to you. He doesn't deserve what you have to offer him if he can't see how much you have to offer - and based on all I know about you from reading on this board, that is LOTS.

I am glad you are going to a place where you have family nearby. Family support is important and you have a new slate to make new friends and meet new people. 

We are here if you need to talk/vent/anything! Please feel free to also find me on fb and chat there if you need an ear of someone who is completely removed from judgement and from your family or social ties.

*big huge hugs* Lots of love to you, and I will be praying for you (if that's okay with you...) 

ohioloveyou

Oh my gosh, roncourt, I am so sorry!  Huge hugs to you.  I am glad you are making the decision that is best for you and hope that happier days are ahead for you.  We are all here for you if you want to talk or vent.

slpmay03

RonCourt-

I am so sorry to hear this and am so sorry you have to go through this.  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  It sounds like you are doing well with everything you are going through.  I can't imagine how difficult it is.  I'm proud of you for taking care of yourself, making the difficult decision, and moving forward.  Good for you for not allowing yourself to be second best or given the run around.  You deserve better!!    It must be so disappointing and hard losing him and your new house.  :-(

Hang in there.  Keep us posted with your move and how you are doing.  We are here for you!!!  Hugs!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

CariJoR

oh Courtney!!! I am so sorry you are goin through this....we are here for you!! (((hugs)))

DaisyKD

So sorry to hear this, I'm sure nothing we say will make you feel better but know that we are here for you if you need to talk or vent.

Please know that you are not a failure, it sounds like you did everything possible to try to make it work.  

Thoughts and prayers that the coming months and changes will be as smooth as possible for you. 

Labrnr

I'm sorry you had to experience such pain, and heartache.

I wish you all the best, as you move forward with your life.   

elishabelle

Wishing you all the best. You're a strong woman who is surrounded by great people. Always feel free to come here to vent or share your triumphs. I'm so glad to hear that you have great friends and family supporting you.

azel530

I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this.  No one should have to deal with that type of behavior and you should feel proud that you were strong enough to stand up for yourself and what is right.  Good luck and continue to stay strong.  Know that we are all here for you sending positive thoughts or if you just need to vent.  HUGS

benmel31

Oh Court, I am so sorry to hear this.  Never think that you are a failure.  I am sorry that your husband has hurt you.  You do not deserve to be treated that way and he does not deserve you!  Stay strong and think of the good things coming your way.  I am glad to hear you plan to move closer to family!  They are so important.  Good luck and remember you are still one of us.  Keep in touch and good luck!

bravesgirlkb

I'm so sorry you are going through this! Do not feel like a failure! You are doing what is best for you. I wish you happiness for your future as you move forward. I will be praying for you & will keep you in my thoughts. Don't hesitate to come to us if you just need to talk or vent or whatever it may be. We love you! ** BIG HUGS **

RonCourt

Thank you so much ladies for your kind words and support. You have no idea how much it means to me.

tailspin430

Courtney - I've been MIA for a bit so I didn't see this until just now, but I've been following you on FB and just wanted you to know that I've been thinking of you and admiring how strong you are. Keep your chin up, girl! You have nothing to be ashamed of. I'm sad for you, but I know there are better things waiting for you.

vmd87

Courtney, I've also been MIA for a bit...I'm so sorry I didn't see this and respond earlier.

My heart is just broken for you. I am so sorry you are going through this, but know that you are strong and beautiful and you deserve someone who only has eyes for you. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. You did NOTHING wrong. In fact, you should be proud of yourself for taking a stand and being strong enough to know you're worth more than that.

Better things are up your alley girl. Keep your chin up. Sending lots and lots of hugs your way xoxo 

RonCourt

Thanks again ladies!