losing momentum

LeahMelanieNJ

I feel like I am, once again, at a point where I don't feel like dating.

I was in a dating-like-crazy period a  couple months ago. I just feel really discouraged and like I don't even want to try anymore. Do you go through this? I am starting to think that I just can't find a guy that I am really into, maybe I should give up and become a crazy cat lady? lol

It just seems a lot easier for most of the women I know.

 

jonesO199

Also New to dating . I've gone to bars for a few drinks and find the men are weird as well as the women THE WRONG PLACE TO FIND LOVE/ I get so lonley I CRY. kEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH  i've thought about keeping busy I'M LETTING LOVE FIND ME

LeahMelanieNJ

jonesO199:

Also New to dating . I've gone to bars for a few drinks and find the men are weird as well as the women THE WRONG PLACE TO FIND LOVE/ I get so lonley I CRY. kEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH  i've thought about keeping busy I'M LETTING LOVE FIND ME

 

Thanks.  I've been dating ona nd off for about 4 1/2 years, so it does get old sometimes, but I try not to stay out of the game for too long.

MintChocoChip

The answer is obviously a get together with yours truly so we can forget about men and just have fun. That's it, we're starting a weekly try something new, have fun, forget about dating and let things happen as they may regimen. Or bi weekly, I know schedules are nuts. What do you say?

+Black Kitty+

I'm right there with you, wish I had an answer

achase123

I definitely get to this point sometimes, especially after a series of let down's or really bad dates.  Dating is supposed to be fun and not a chore.  I think taking a break sometimes is a good idea.

I don't have time to actively pursue dating right now because I'm studying and slammed at work.  Therefore I'm taking my online dating profile down so I don't encourage it.  I'm keeping so busy that I don't have the time to look.  If someone finds me and wants to go out, I will make time for that but I'm not doing anything to encourage it, such as my online match profile.

turtle1120

I think it's a natural cycle if you're not having much luck.  How many first dates can you go on without getting discouraged?  I find that I'll go on a bunch of dates and then take a little break from it for a while.

If you don't feel like dating anymore, take a break for a few months.  That's not to say if Mr. Wonderful comes along you can't go out with him.  Just don't actively pursue anything and use the time to regroup.

starburst604

I was single for about 3 years and I went through this quite a bit. Let's face it, first dates with the wrong people just start to feel like an awkward interview and every so often I would just get SO discouraged. I felt like if there was a lid for every pot, they must have discontinued my freakin lid. I would go on hiatus from online dating for a few months and just enjoy my regular social life and then give it another shot. When I did go back to it I was just more selective. Being "open" had just never really worked for me, at this point in life I'm usually pretty on point with my first impression of someone, even over the internet. It eventually panned out, but I don't miss it AT. ALL.

LeahMelanieNJ

That sounds like a good plan, Mint!

 I have been keeping very busy and enjoying my life a ton without dating, I just really want to have my cake and eat it too. lol

 What do you mean, Mr.Right can't just show up on my doorstep while I am enjoying my non-dating life? That is just not fair! haha

 

Wedding18

I've never had momentum.  I actually just agreed to let a friend introduce me to a friend of her husband's. This is huge for me!

pdx18

Dating shouldn't be a chore. If you feel like, go for it, if not it's fine to take a break. Also if find for those women for who it seems "easy" are often not very picky about who they will date. Could I go online and go out on a ton of dates? Sure that's easy. Would I have any interested in the vast majority of those men, most likely not.