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AGH!
So I am the MOH in one of my best friend's weddings in May. I don't really know the other bridesmaids, all of which are close. I have taken the lead, and I think appropriately so as MOH, in the planning of her bridal shower and bachelorette party. While planning the bridal shower, the only other involved BM, suggested a garden eclectic tea party theme in opposition to my sophisticated/glam ideas. We went with the garden eclectic tea party for the shower. When planning the shower, 3 BMs met and delegated responsibilities. I had the cake and the favors. Get an email after the meeting from the BM, saying I was no longer doing either, to which I responded that I am doing both.
So being that we are just over two months away from the wedding, I sent out an email to all BMs last week asking for input on dates, ideas for the bachelorette party. Got two responses only relating to the date. So I went ahead, met with the bride-to-be and planned the bachelorette party. Last night after sending out a very detailed email of what we'd be doing, I get a reply all from the garden eclectic BM trashing my ideas, and saying that I should really seek input before making decisions. UGH! I am so frustrated with her. She always jumps in last minute to change everything. I have already spend hours planning this party.
Re: AGH!
Should've added:
/vent over/
Do you think I am overreacting to this? Is she right? I want to call the bride and scream.
You're pregnant. You are never overreacting when you're pregnant.
But really, no. Girls can be biitches, and the other BM sounds like one.
Oh yes...I have said that repeatedly. Only getting crap from this one bm. I want to kick her butt.
She asked why I felt the responsibility was all mine, I responded it isn't, but that because I am the MOH I felt that I should take the lead (and because no one else was). To which she *replied all* I'm not aware that you are the MOH, we are all just BMs. Maybe she didn't make you aware b/c you're a wench. UGH! This is beyond frustrating.
OMG, she is being ridiculous. It's not like you planned HER wedding without getting any input. Ugh, get over yourself. It's a freakin' bachelorette party. The only thing that really matters to the bride is having a good time with her best girls.
But if it were me, I would leave the bride out of it. The most important thing is that she enjoys the day and the best way to do that is to keep her oblivious from all the stupid drama. I would do you best to work out any issues with the girl. As much as it sucks, I would send her a nicely worded email saying, "Sorry you took such issue with the decisions made regarding the party, but what would you suggest doing differently?" and then say something about how you just want the bride to have a great time at the party and that's all that really matters.
But man, that sucks you have to deal with this girl. I hate being a BM for this one any only reason of having to plan stuff with the other BMs. Good luck
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Well, at least you are not the bad guy! Hopefully their conversation will ensure a stress free b-party now.
Out of curiosity, how old is this girl?
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12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
I could *maybe* see this behavior from a 21 year old. Maybe 22 year old. I know when I was at that age I had a lot more girlfriend drama in my life. But it seems that as you get older, and get out into the real world, and especially at 27, you have decided that you don't have time for silly drama like this.
She totally needs to get a life.
Baby Macy is here!
12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
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