i cannot win at work or at home

mrs.marie.g

at work. i am seriously at a breaking point. i report to two different group. two totally different bosses with two VERY different personalities and they manage their groups totally differ.ently. it started back when the economey sucked they asked me to take on this group. it was sold to me as temporary. well four years later and here i am. and honestly i get its because the boss is difficult. i can handle him and he likes me. and his group doesn't ask me to do a ton. but they expect when they ask me to do something to drop everything and do it. well sometimes i can do that but 95% of the time i have other obligations. and another group to work with. if you have something you need for a client meeting you need to communicate that to me. and i've told them this. today one of the guys asked me t o do something at 30. i leave at 430. it was NOT possible to finish in an hour. and of course i feel terribly guilty that i can't finish it (even though the turn around time was unrealistic) but tues/thurs ken has pt at 530 and i need to be home with the kids. my mom already picks them up and seriously they are MY kids i can't ask or expect my mom to do everything. and the time i get with cole is so precious because its so short.

my mom gets him for his happiest half hour. he rolled over at daycare and it was a day and half before i could get him to do it for me to see. and we are starting ceral but he's so freaking tired when i get home he doesn't have the tolerance for it (he's been in bed now for a half hour already and I walk in the door 530) so he's been so hungry daycare suggested i send in some cereal. great another thing daycare gets to do that i don't get to do.

belle keeps talking about dance class and asking me to come but i CAN'T my mom takes her to dance because of the time its at and i can't get to her in time to take her. awesome.

professionaly i can't give my people what they need. and on my home front i feel like i am missing all the fun with my kids

i know i work for a reason so she can go to dance class and soccer and gym. and so i can  get free health care coverage and so we can go on vacations and do fun things. but right now i feel like i am failing at both my jobs.

someone pass the wine

MrsGabbs4Ed

I hear you loud and clear and could have written a similar post!!  As the years have gone by, the workload has been increasing along with the stress level.  No one wants to cross train and learn how to do my job....it is met with total resistance from the entire team.  So far Evan has used up half of my sick days.  They are generous and I get 12 per year and yeah it's March almost and I've used up half!  It's hard when you work FT, and then deal with 2 kids in the evening alone (Ed gets home much later than me since he has a longer commute into the city). There's many a night that I feel like a complete failure as a working mom and as a parent.  I can def. relate.  I am sure you're doing the best you can as we all are.  As much as I value my job, my family comes first.  Luckily I have an understanding boss; even though she's an @$$ in other ways.

FrancoiseFilly

I relate on many levels. my coworker is out on medical leave and we have topick up the slack so now i manage eight magazines. i dont know if people realize how stressful publishing can be but it is f ing brutal. On top of that, video conferences, meetings about STRETCH goals, i mean seriously, i can barely get my regular work done, how does one get to do STRETCH GOALS...i have the sole responsibility of dropping off and picking up the kids from daycare---which i always did but when we were in NJ, daycare was 1 minute from my job and Matt was only 15 mins from daycare. Now he's 40 minutes and I am the one who gets dreaded daycare calls, and has to drive 20 mins 2 towns over to drop/pick up. I have so much work to do i work on weekends, at night, on sick days, check email like 10x an hour, and even on vacation. And that's just my WORK----i love my kids but i am seriously burned out. I work all day at a high-stress job and then I barely see my kids, and when i do, they're cranky, hungry, and tired. Weekends are spent cleaning and doing errands and then it's monday again. 

So I can relate. Sorry to piss on your rant, Marie. But you are not alone. HUGS! 

Melanie2003

Yes, it sucks. I can commiserate. 

Hugs!  

molldoll71

Marie, don't you know you should be grateful you have a job and babies!  Sorry couldn't resist!!  

Hugs, it is tough.  Don't be so hard on yourself.  

mrs.marie.g

molldoll71:

Marie, don't you know you should be grateful you have a job and babies!  Sorry couldn't resist!!  

Hugs, it is tough.  Don't be so hard on yourself.  

 

 loll. that made me laugh and piss on my post all you want, jess 

 

 

 

mj1014

HUGS!!!!!!!  I can totally relate as well!