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WWYD- food allergy/wedding related
I'm currently on a dairy free diet while I am bfing bc my son is allergic/intolerant. I have 6 weddings coming up in the next few months and 5 showers... WWYD about food at these events? Should I call the venue before hand to tell them I have an allergy since the food is mass produced for these events and not made to order, or do you think I can just say it when I order? I don't want to a be a pain in the butt, I'm trying to figure out the best way to go about this making the least hassle.
BTW- I know the obvious "order food without cheese" but most restaurant food is cooked in butter with cream, etc.
Re: WWYD- food allergy/wedding related
I would just tell them when you get there. I have a food allergy and that's what I've always done and it's worked out fine. If you call the places ahead of time, there's no guarantee they'll remember or care for that matter (although if you're close to any of the people hosting the weddings/showers you could always tell them ahead of time as I'm sure the caterers and banquet staff will be more likely listen to their requests ahead of time rather than a random guest who isn't paying them). Even if the hosts do say something ahead of time, you should still plan on letting someone on the staff know once you arrive at each event.
ETA: When you tell the staff member, make it clear exactly why you're requesting the dairy-less food. A lot of places I've been to think I'm lying when I tell them what I'm allergic to and just scrape it off the food they've already prepared, so my husband and I have gotten in the habit of saying that my allergy is practically deadly (it isn't, but it's the only thing that works).
Ok great. Are they always accommodating? This is so new to me so I'm a bit overwhelmed.
BTW- random, but I just saw your Q to me about Walden- the tuition was less than a traditional university, especially bc books were included in the tuition.
Thanks so much! I'm going to look into it because I've been thinking about getting certified for TOSD. I've been thinking about going to Kean, but if an online school is cheaper and easier, I may go that route instead.
Oh, and yes, they're always accommodating. But like I said in my edit in the post above, make it clear exactly why you need to make a special request... exaggerate if you have to. :-)
Any place I've worked we always had someone at a party requiring a special meal. Restaurants should always have grilled chicken and some seasonal vegetables around.
As a mom who went through this while BFing and still has a dairy allergic kid, actually, it is challenging to find food w/ no dairy whatsoever in it when eating out - you find out that there's dairy in all sorts of non-obvious things like marinades, bread, breading, it was seasoned with butter, etc. Depending on whether or not I know the host/bride/groom/etc well, I'll usually mention it when I RSVP to ask if I can contact someone at the restaurant or banquet hall to find out allergen info. Our friends and family at this point are all familiar with A's allergy so generally everyone has been understanding and check into it to begin with to request that a food allergy be accomodated. I remember I asked about it at the reception hall when we were planning our wedding.
Then at the event itself, I will usually let the server know that we have a milk allergy and they will usually do what they can to check ingredients. If they can't find out, we just don't eat it. I usually could get grilled meat/steamed veg w/ no butter, or plain pasta w/ red sauce. I was prepared at times to just have something I knew I could have in my bag, even if it was just a granola bar so I knew I could get by if there wasn't anything dairy-free.