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How do I ask this politely?
We have a neighbor who has two little boys, the younger of whom is a few months older then Ash. She invites us to do things often, like go to the park or library. We have some similarities to our parenting styles, but she is MUCH more "natural" than I am. We are both in a mom Facebook group, and she has invited me to her Attachment Parenting group a couple of times.
Here's my question - after reading several of the recent posts between she & her friends, I am getting the definite impression that her kids are not vaccinated. I'm not trying to start a war, and I really don't want an enemy as my neighbor, but I'm am so not down with DD hanging out with un-vaxed kids. How do I politely ask if her kids (and the kids at the group meetings, for that matter) are vaccinated? Without starting a mommy war?
No more baby siggie pics. Boo.
Re: How do I ask this politely?
How about saying something like.."ash was a total wimp with xyz shot, did your d's have anything happen when he got xyz shot?"
But I'm passive aggressive according to bsc roommate, so maybe I'm not the best to ask.
I need a sarcastic font, that's how the above should be read
Do you have any Pediatrician appts coming up? Could you bring it up with her in a "I have to take DD to the Dr. on X day. Man I'm glad we dont' have any vaccinations this time. She cried for 30 minutes after her Y vax. I felt so bad. How do you deal with mommy guilt of a crying child when you can't do anything about it?" (actually, you could probably just say this even without an upcoming appt)
Something to that effect? Good luck!
Bazinga!
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This made me LOL and I like the suggestion.
This. My sister ran into a similar situation. Based on what she was reading on facebook (links the mom was posting, etc) she gathered that her son was not vaccinated, but she wasn't sure. I think my sister decided that since her son was vaccinated she would just let it slide, and if she had another baby she would cross that bridge when she got to it (about the baby being around an unvaccinated kid).
Ditto Schoolsout.
If you have to, just ask openly. Say, "I read some of you comments on the mom's group and was wondering if your kids are vaccinated? I'm only asking b/c I'm concerned to be around unvaccinated kids if they are sick." If she replies that they aren't vaccinated, just tell her that your concern is your DD's health and to "Please let me know if we have a planned playdate and one of your kids comes down with something because I'll gladly reschedule for when everyone is healthy."
Why punish the kids and not allow them to play together for something the parents decided for them?
Are you united with the CCOKCs?
FTR: (because I'm a pretty naturally mama and our girls share food and straws and then get sick... winky wink) Emma is fully vaccinated except for the flu shot ; )
And I'd have the same concerns you do.
These are good suggestions, thanks.
DD is current for her age, but we are around babies and pregnant women quite a bit, and I just don't want to put anyone at risk. I'll just ask her - it will put my mind at ease. It may not be a big deal at all!
No more baby siggie pics. Boo.