Starting Over
I have done wrong in my life, and never admitted it. I have failed, I have let people down. I have had people who thought I would never amount to anything. I have been questioned about my choices. I have almost come to blows with those who mean the most to me. I have aleady managed to let my son down, he is only 18 months old. I am not perfect. I used to think that I was, and that got me no where....
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This is too good not to share (re XH's pity party)
XH's newly updated FB Status:
I have done wrong in my life, and never admitted it. I have failed, I have let people down. I have had people who thought I would never amount to anything. I have been questioned about my choices. I have almost come to blows with those who mean the most to me. I have aleady managed to let my son down, he is only 18 months old. I am not perfect. I used to think that I was, and that got me no where....
Today, I am so proud to admit my wrongs, to not fail...but to make a mistake and promptly admit and correct it. To, without words, look at those people and others, and kill them with a smile. To have the the choices I make be sound, instead of being sounded off on. Instead of blows, turns out life is alot easy with calm words. I work hard everyday to make myself the best daddy possible. Let's face it though, untill my Bubba doesn't live in ABC City, he might feel let down. But I sure as heck wont go a single day without trying to figure out a way to let him know I love him. I am not perfect, I no longer think that I am, but I will be successful, because of my parents, because of a woman that actually loves me for me...because of my son, who I wake up with every morning and smile even though he isn't here, because of family with my grandma right at the top.
I am not perfect, but I sure am glad I used to think that I was, because instead of getting me no where...it got me...HOME
I'll take sociopath for 500 Alex...
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Re: This is too good not to share (re XH's pity party)
I don't understand his post. Is he asking for forgiveness? Is he actually sorry for his wrongs, or is happy about them because they brought him "HOME"? The whole thing is rambling and weird. Was he like this during your marriage?
I like the line, "I have had people who thought I would never amount to anything. " Um...ok...you did? And...what happened with that? Are these the people you punched in the face? I'm confused.
I think it's funny and sad he felt the need to post this as a FB status. Actions speak louder than words, and if he has to announce to the world that he's "changed," well......
At any rate, I it must be frustrating to deal with that. Yuck!
Oh, CPA, our XH's were separated at birth. I am not FB friends with him but I could easily see a similar post from him. What's the point of all of this? Basically to have people who are FB friends (but probably haven't seen him since HS) give him a virtual pat on the back and an "atta boy, you can do it" and he'll believe his own words for a little while because of it.
So typical and so predictable. ::shakes head::
The only thing that he's missing is the tattoo, in Chinese proverb "actions speak louder than words". I'll stay tuned, I'm sure that'll be his next move. I'd be a million on it.
I am so confused why it took him this long to realize he wasn't perfect.
That sounds like a fun guy to be married to.
I also cannot help but add that after reading "The Sociopath Next Door" the #1 common trait they possess is attempting to evoke pity from others. That's exactly what he was trying to do with his FB post. Who puts that kind of shiit out there for the world to see?
Oh achase... You'll love this. He has a tattoo of UNDERDOG on his arm. Bc you know... Life is out to get him and he is just fighting to survive.
Yes- he's getting comments of "don't be so hard on yourself" "you're a great person and daddy." What a freaking joke.
Of course, yes of course he does.
I'd bet you a bottle of my favorite wine his opening line with women is "I'm a good guy who's made some mistakes. I'm looking for someone who doesn't hold my past against me".
It makes no sense. Not only does he blame me for all his hardships in life (I obviously caused him to get 4 DUIs even though I was never in the same county as him when any of them happened) but he also blames the town that we lived in. Yes- that's right. I live in a very nice suburban home in a great area. He now lives in a trailer owned by his parents and is flat broke.
He's trying to act "brave" and "humble" by posting the ridiculous rant out there for the world to see. But actually what is wants is pity and sympathy.
He's made some mistakes but at least now he's with a woman who really loves him and appreciates him for who he is (which obviously CPA did NOT).
He hasn't been the perfect father but he loves his son and thinks about him every.single.hour. of every.single.day. It should be apparent to anyone who reads this message just how much he loves his son. He's posting it on his FB status so it must be the truth.
I also cannot help but add that after reading "The Sociopath Next Door" the #1 common trait they possess is attempting to evoke pity from others. That's exactly what he was trying to do with his FB post. Who puts that kind of shiit out there for the world to see?
Yep! D's ex-wife pulls this crap all the time. After she had a crazy-spell last week, she texted him "Thanks for being nice to me, even though I don't deserve it" He responded "you're welcome" She is a piece of work.