Starting Over
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
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Re: Onward and Upward Check In
Life is Goo-ood! Except for XH's random ridiculousness, I'm still loving 2012.
My BF (yes, you read that right) is amazing. Just today he asked me how my day was going, I responded that I was drowning in work and was very overwhelmed. He responded "Be positive. Tomorrow is Thursday already! And I know you can do it. I don't think God allows us to bite off more than we can chew. Now go get em, keep kickin azz
" It was exactly what I needed to hear.
I know what I want and am not afraid to be up front about my past, the emotional scars I deal with, and what I'm looking for. No more walking on eggshells or not being assertive in that department. So far - it's paying great dividends.
Work is kicking my behind and I'm SO.FLIPPING.EXHAUSTED. from working until 1 or 2am every night. I keep telling myself that anything worth having is worth working for - this all better pay off in the career department in the long run!
Still feeling pretty down about being unemployed (stupid nonprofits ::grumble), but I'm trying to get out to network more and volunteer more, and it looks like it might be starting to pay off. The guy who ran the phonebanking day I was at last Thursday just sent me a message saying he was going to forward my resume on with his highest recommendation that the organization hire me for the position I applied for, so :: fingers crossed:: !
I haven't heard from K since his weirdness last night, so I'm thinking things are officially done and over, which is good. As someone wise said yesterday, "life is too short for bad sex and spending time with people you don't like."
I'm headed to that conference this weekend where I'm going to do my best to avoid evil ex-boss man, largely by spending a lot of time with youth activists (who are actually really awesome), and with some wonderful nesties who I'm having a gtg with, and with FWB guy.
And I just started chatting with someone new from Match who actually seems really....nice. I think we're setting up a first face to face for next week, but we've chatted quite a bit (okay, more than a bit...more like hours) the past couple of days, and he's made me actually LOL (in a good way) several times. Gotta love a guy with a similar sense of humour.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
I'm halfway through the bar exam! Work is going well and I have some potential big deals with candidates right now.
Financially things suck, especially now that I have to spend a lot on deductibles for my accident. I hope to get my own place by the summer.
No news in the man front, aside from breaking things off with someone I had 3 dates with. I'm focusing on getting back into volunteering and working out in March since I won't be studying for the bar.
I have big weekend plans to gtg with law school friends in NYC and then some St Patricks Day celebrations in March. Yay!
2012 is going well!
On Sunday I am headed back to the US for a few weeks to see my family. My sister had a baby last week so I will get to be the godmother during his baptism next Saturday! After I head back to ID and will be there for a few weeks. Headed back to Sydney at the end of March thru begining of June!
After that I plan on renting a house with a friend back in ID and planting a garden and enjoying summer with activities like boating, crossfit, hiking, camping and lots of concerts!
No men in the picture but that is not something I have time to think about... maybe next year
2012 is briging new beginnings that I'm excited about.
I am very happy that I've managed my course load this semester pretty well. I am taking 5 classes while working full time.
I am proud of myself for staying motivated to lose weight despite the changes in my life. I've focused on working out and eating right since January 23rd with great results.
I am very thankful to work with people I enjoy being around. I am also very thankful for the opportunities I have been given at work.
And lastly I'm so thankful for my super supportive friends and family.
All in all things are pretty great, although, it was a rough February. But the good things that have come out of it, I finally got out from under the car XH and I bought (in his name) and bought a single person's car which I'm happy about. I went from driving a 2010 Altima (family car) to a 2007 tC. The best parts - payments are lower by over $100 and its a compact so I can park pretty much anywhere!
On the man front, there is a guy from OKC that I've been talking to for about a week or so and we are having a first date on Friday! I'm actually excited - and a little nervous - because he seems like a nice normal dude. Of course, I haven't met him yet and we all know how that can change. This will be my first experience with actually meeting someone from the online dating world so it should be interesting.
In March, I'm hoping to get back on track eating wise, and exercise regularly again. I got sick a couple weeks ago with a cold that just wouldn't go away, so I've been slacking. And I'm hoping to make it a spending freeze month. I spent WAY too much money in Feb (due to the car situation) and need to give my bank account a break.
Things are going great and 2012 is still pretty awesome for me and DS.
Work - I love my job, coworkers and I'm hopeful I'll get some great news about a pay increase by the end of next week. Transitioning into full-time work from being a SAHM/SAHWM after almost 2 years wasn't as hard as I thought and I learned I really do like the corporate setting. I'm just thankful and fortunate that I had the opportunity to be a SAHM when I did so I could be there for DS every day and not miss anything for his first year & a half of life.
DS - He's doing great and has adjusted so well with daycare after his first month. I'm so proud of how well he's done and how much he's learned in such a short time. Even with the routine of being with me during the week and then with his dad on the weekends, he seems to be really comfortable and 'gets' it with no probs. I can't believe he's only a couple months away from being 2 years old. His bday party plans are already set and I'm looking forward to celebrating that soon.
STBXH - We are on very good terms and pretty amicable. He completely understands and respects my decision to leave and move forward with divorce. We usually have dinner together every couple of weeks to catch up, talk about DS and take care of misc stuff before our divorce is final. He still is very hopeful about getting back together and reconciling but I've already told him where I stand. A little too late my friend, a little too late.
Love Life - Um, yeah... none of that right now. I did meet someone who is also waiting for their divorce to become final. He's a nice guy and we have a lot in common (aside from where we are in life.) We've been talking everyday for the past week but I personally am not ready to hit the dating scene. It's nice to talk to him though and get a glimpse of what his experience is like in this whole process.
Overall - I've been keeping busy with my own life, which is usually how I am anyway. My weekends are booked with things to do, places to go, family and friends to be with. Honestly, life hasn't really changed much aside from it just getting and feeling better. I feel like this great weight has been lifted and I'm no longer carrying any heavy baggage (aka STBXH) that previously made me feel held down or held back. Friends have asked me how I'm doing and my response is always the same - better than ever. Even as a single mom, it's not hard and it feels just the same as when I was with STBXH. I guess that just goes to show how little STBXH did as a father/husband when we were with him. I never did or could rely on him to do much since I did everything... hence, no real change.
Farfalla, I had a tC and LOVED it. Then I flipped it. It didn't survive that. But be forewarned, the insurance rates are ridiculous on tCs (they're one of the top 5 most expensive cars to insure) because like 95% of their drivers are under the age of 24.
Things are going well for me! BF and I are doing better than ever, and I am enjoying my job. Still hang out with friends a lot, and life is just good, all around. I don't really have anything to complain about!
School: I passed my math finally!! I got an 81 over all score. It could have been better but considering how much I struggled with that class and how much my teach micromanaged the discussions, I'm quite happy with that grade. I started a new set of classes Monday.
DS: He is finally gaining weight and hit 4 growth spurts right in a row so now he's almost as tall as I am at 3.5 but it does help that I'm only 5'0. Potty training is still a touchy subject. We saw a Urologist 2 weeks ago and he thinks it's a combo of a small bladder and his ADHD causing him to miss cues. He has us measuring how much he goes every 2 hours and report back next week. He should be able to hold 5 oz every 2-3 hrs but so far we're only getting .5oz to an once each time. It breaks my heart because he is now officially the last 3 yr old besides the demon child in his class while all of his friends got moved up to the next class. His partner in crime G hung in up until last week and then got moved.
Dating: I'm still single but have been talking to J while he is over in Germany. I've known this guy for about 6 yrs now. We have been friends on facebook for over a year now and have truly enjoyed our conversations. As far as my trip there, it's still up in the air. It really all depends on when I close on my house because while I'm waiting to close my finances have to look picture perfect. Once I close there will be a drastic overhaul to free up money in my budget but need my credit ran to do it. He has been oh so sweet and doesn't want me to do it if it really puts me in a bind. He will be here in June no matter what. I have a skype date with him this weekend.
House: I'm stilll waitinggg. We got the final approval last week and they have to take that to the first lender in order for them to agree and give me a closing date. I really hope it's soon.
1. Divorce should be finalized on March 22nd if everything goes to plan. We have been separated since July 4th.
2. DS seems to be handling the transition better now. But he is definitely clingy to momma at night and really disliking sleeping in his room unless he is super tired.
3. Had an amazing Hawaii trip in Jan with BFF and another good friend. I am traveling and taking vacation which is something that stbxh isn't really into.
4. My BFF is complimenting me on how much I changed from beng an introvert into an extrovert. She is loving this sassy extrovert in me.
5. I taken up Bollywood dancing and pole dancing.
6. I found out through good friends that there are guys that are very interested in me and hope to have a chance with me when I am ready. I am not ready at all to date yet because I am still going to my weekly therapy to analyze more things about me but I am definitely feeling flattered by this.
Upwards and Onwards!