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bachelor party vs bridal shower: etiquette

This is a question for a friend. I know only people who are invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower, does the same hold true for a bachelor party? My friend is having a destination wedding and a "friend" invited himself to the bachelor party. The bride and groom are both neutral about this person and if he attends the wedding. If he's coming to the bachelor party should they put an invite in the mail for the wedding?

FWIW, he asked the groom when/where the bachelor party is and if he can come.

Re: bachelor party vs bridal shower: etiquette

  • Hi!  I'm certainly not an expert in etiquette... - but in this case I would invite him to both.   I don't think the bride and groom have to, especially since he invited himself to the bachelor party but it would be a nice gesture.  Maybe he's lonely.

    If he really wants to go to the wedding - he will - otherwise I'm sure he'll appreciate receiving the invitation.  Hopefully he won't be one of those "wedding crasher" type guests. :)

     

  • PS. DH and I accidentally "crashed" a wedding once.  I was 8 months pregnant and the wedding was at a hall where a couple of weddings happened at once - and for some reason there was no signage.  The reception we went to had pictures of the bride and groom as little kids and we thought they looked right (blonde girl/darker haired guy) so we got drinks and started eating off the buffets.  It wasn't until we started chatting with the guests that we realized we were in the wrong reception. :)
  • I find that guys are more okay with throwing etiquette to the wind and opening up the night out to guys who won't be coming to the wedding, they just don't care
  • imagevjcjenn1:
    I find that guys are more okay with throwing etiquette to the wind and opening up the night out to guys who won't be coming to the wedding, they just don't care

    Same. H's friends invited a few extra guys to his bachelor party that were not invited the wedding. The guys just wanted an excuse to party.

  • imageSA7206:

    imagevjcjenn1:
    I find that guys are more okay with throwing etiquette to the wind and opening up the night out to guys who won't be coming to the wedding, they just don't care

    Same. H's friends invited a few extra guys to his bachelor party that were not invited the wedding. The guys just wanted an excuse to party.

    Agreed.

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