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I need to make a sappy post
I think we all know I'm not a sappy person in general, nor am I a military cheerleader. In fact, I'm the antithesis of your general military stereotype.
Yet, tonight, I feel proud of our community. It's going to come across as an AW, because I was the one of service tonight, but that's not the intent.
A friend of mine here, who I met long before I knew she was military (b/c I've avoided every mil event) was struggling. She eventually let us know she was going through a divorce and was mil. He was cheating, being a stingy ass, etc.
Tonight, she called just b/c she needed a place to be herself (she hasn't told any of our mutual friends about either mil or divorce), and where she could cry. And I felt good that I could offer her all that. She might not have called if H was here, but he's not, so we shared homemade spaghetti and wine (ftr, she told H about it, too, and he'd be open to her coming over. She was her for V-day. But she wouldn't call to impose on us)
It's one of those things that, as much as I dislike being pigeonholed into a community, I know it's there for me, and I'm there for others. I may disagree with so much of it, even on this board, but I know it's a community for all of us. And for that, I'm thankful. Cue group hugs.
Re: I need to make a sappy post
*Gives Sibil a British hug*
ETA: Your friend is lucky to have you. I would have loved a friend like that when I was going through my baby divorce.
I've got one too! There's a spouse I really like. To make this possibly Sibil approved, our Hs are the liberals of their workplace, though her H is very senior to my H. She told me that some of the other spouses of her husband's rank were mean to her before my H moved to the unit. The other spouses of my husband's rank were mean to me at a funeral last year (seriously). Now we are friends. It makes me very happy to have at least one friend that directly understands the issues of H's job, because when I had none, I was very lonely, even with the great military friends (from here) that I do have. I hated feeling that loneliness, because I do want to be super independent and totally down for H's job, but sometimes I need someone to understand with me when crappy things happen. I'm a freak in that I LOVE the military (lol), but a lot of times people don't love me because of my politics.
ETA: Or because of me. Whatevs!
Thanks, 'Stan. I don't love the military, obviously, and I'm certainly not your normal political type. The problem for me in the past is that most of my friends are spouses of pretty low ranking guys, so that makes it somewhat ifffy for H. He honestly doesn't giveashit, but there's rules and stuff.
I think it's more, for me, that I have awesome friends outside of the military, and they're wonderful and understanding and all that I usually need. It's just that, on this occasion, I could use my crazy experiences for good. And on even rarer occasion it's nice to just have someone know, without explanation, what you deal with. To not have to explain what "BAH" means or what "I don't actually know where he's going or when he's coming back" means.
I can't PIP for some reason. But do you mean THIS face?
http://images.cheezburger.com/completestore/2010/8/30/420f0740-4a5e-42bb-9c1b-68f8f22d87be.jpg