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USMC Grad *update*

So, since everyone was so helpful when I had my little emotional moment a few weeks before H's graduation, I thought I would let everyone know how things went (minus a few key details, of course Wink)

Everything was perfect, or as close to perfect as it could possibly have been. All the worrying I did was for nothing. My mom went up to S Carolina with me for Family Day and Graduation so I would have some company on the ride up. I had a really hard time finding him during the motivational run and when they were in formation before they let them go for liberty--they all looked the same! But we found each other pretty quickly as soon as they let them go, he grabbed me and gave me a huge hug, and I started to cry into his neck a little, I was just so happy and relieved to see him! He wasn't dramatically different, but there were a lot of little things, like how he talked and carried himself. He also did stuff he would NEVER have done before, like opening doors for me and my mom. We walked around the base a lot and he and I talked about a lot more than I would have expected. I was kind of tense and nervous, I wasn't quite sure how to act and I didn't want to do anything wrong, but it got better by the end of his liberty. Graduation was awesome, too--I hardly got any sleep the night before, I was too excited to be taking him home.

I drove him over to the squad bay after to get his stuff, and our song came on the radio and he grabbed my hand and held it for a little while--it was completely random and so sweet. I followed the advice you guys gave me and told him I would just take him to our room so he could get a shower and change and that he could just meet me whenever he was ready. Well, once I had gotten our stuff into the room, I figured I would change really quick and then leave for a little while. We were really shy around each other, which I didn't expect, since we're married and neither one of us is especially shy. The "alone time" he mentioned that I was so worried about never really came up after that, except that he said he wanted to just chill in the shower by himself for a while. After that, we spent the rest of the day together, and were pretty much attached at the hip for every possible second of his ten day leave. So yeah, I was worried for nothing!

Anyway, I just wanted to let all of you know how things went. Our relationship is ten times better than it was before, and all of the little things that we had trouble with before he left are all nonexistent now. The only real downside was that I got really, really sick with the flu the last four days of his leave, so he spent that last part taking care of me! He was really sweet about it though, and I felt better enough to take him to the airport last night.

Re: USMC Grad *update*

  • Glad it worked out for you. :)
  • Thats sweet. Glad you had a good time:)
  • Glad it was a nice reunion!
    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
  • I'm happy everything worked out. I had the exact same recognition problem that you did. In addition to them all being in the same uniform he had lost weight so it was up to him to find me in the crowd.

    Also the little things about his behavior being different I also noticed initially. Nothing that I minded of course but I'm sure it's just difficult for them to change over from the rigidly structured training environment to normal life without retaining a few quirks at first.

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  • Yeah, the biggest "quirk" I noticed at first was that for the first day or so he had a lot of trouble making decisions on his own. He had spent the last three months being told what to do, when to sleep, what and when to eat, and having everything timed, and then suddenly everyone was firing questions at him: "What do you want to do? Where do you want to eat? What are your plans? What time do you want to do this/go here?" He pulled me aside and told me he was going to need help fielding everything at first, so I kind of played director and sweetly told everyone that he needed to get changed and relax a bit and that we would meet them all for dinner, and made it look like it was all his idea so he didn't look foolish. It wore off after a day or so, and then everything was back to normal, but the good stuff stayed! :)
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