Tell me I'm being a brat

BlondeMoment123

My parents, friends and CW's were beyond sweet today.

My H didn't get me anything...not even a card. We did go to dinner over the weekend and it was kind of pricey. We also junked the POS truck today so I get to finally park in my garage again.

I know I should just shut up and be grateful that things are looking up, but a card would've been nice. H usually does great at buying gifts, so I'm a little disappointed.

*binges on various baked goods*

lexxasaurus

Nah, you're not being a brat. He really may have thought since ya'll went to dinner that you'd already "celebrated" and there was no need for anything today...

He was wrong.

Haha, but seriously, I would be bummed out too if I didn't even get a little thing, regardless of previously going out and all that. So while I'm sure he didn't mean any harm, feel free to be grumpy. I'm glad everyone else made your day nicer though!

SLouWE

Frak that. He should have gotten you at least a little something, or made you dinner.  Getting his POS truck out of the garage is not an appropriate bday present.  You had probably already agreed upon that a long time ago.  I say Happy Birthday and make him cook and do the dishes.

ka429

SLouWE:

Frak that. He should have gotten you at least a little something, or made you dinner. Getting his POS truck out of the garage is not an appropriate bday present. You had probably already agreed upon that a long time ago. I say Happy Birthday and make him cook and do the dishes.

I agree. I also don't think you're being a brat. Glad that everyone else made it a good day for you. (& you have baked goods to binge on, that's always a plus.) Happy birthday!

iLikeSloths

Aww...this is almost exactly like my post a couple of months ago!  I don't think you're being a brat -- my feelings were hurt also.  We don't usually do gifts and I can't eat out anyway, but I was upset that there was no thoughtfulness like a card or homemade dinner.  I totally understand why you're disappointed.     

Anyway, I think you should talk to him about it.  That's what some of you all told me to do and it helped.  My H is great in other areas, but this is definitely not one of them.  I think some guys are clueless when it comes to these things and need us to blatantly tell them our expectations.  Sometimes I think it's super frustrating, but I figure if I don't speak up it won't change and I hope that over time he'll get it.

I'm sorry your feelings are hurt!           

BlondeMoment123

I saw him for maybe an hour today and he won't be home until late tonight.

I thought for sure that I'd find a gift when I got home and I was wrong. *sigh*

At least I have enough cake to last me through my mini-meltdown

gregslittlewifey

I'm sorry . I would be bummed out about that, too.

Milsey32

Megamuff:

I saw him for maybe an hour today and he won't be home until late tonight.

I thought for sure that I'd find a gift when I got home and I was wrong. *sigh*

At least I have enough cake to last me through my mini-meltdown

The worst type of birthday for me would be one without cake. So far I've never had to experience that. 

angrybeavers

I don't think you're being a brat. I felt the exact same way when hubby didn't do anything for valentines day (we usually do).

I'd tell him something like "So I'll be getting my bday present this weekend, right?" 

darkling_glory

It's okay... I had to specifically tell my hubby that I REALLY enjoy getting cards for special occasions. Especially if he writes more than "Love, hubby" in it. He's finally figured it out that as much as he might hate cards, I really, really need one. 

I think guys just don't "get it" when it comes to that type of stuff. It's okay to feel crummy for a day but then snap out of it and try not to hold a grudge.

Happy Birthday!  

vxs0038

I'm sorry. You are not being a brat. I would be upset.

charitylynne_1979

Sorry to hear that.  You are not being a brat. I would be upset too. He should have gotten you something atleast. Even if it was a sweet card and maybe a little present.

LizO11

I also do not think you are being a brat, I would be upset too, especially if he normally is good at gift giving and thoughtfulness. Maybe he was just distracted by the truck situation, and didn't have a chance to pick something out, and didn't want to to get a card with no thought behind it?  **hugs** I would definitely say to talk to him about it, and tell him that it bothers you.

erin0709

I'm sorry and I hope he makes it up to you this weekend.   I would feel a little letdown as well, and the same kind of thing has happened to me before. 

Last year the H wanted to pay for new struts/sparks on my car and consider it a birthday "present", because he thought it would save me the extra expense and it would be nice.  I had to tell him that didn't count as  gift, even if he did pay for it. haha

 

BlondeMoment123

False alarm! H brought home flowers and a card last night. (After I ate too much cake)

boofly1224

Megamuff:

False alarm! H brought home flowers and a card last night. (After I ate too much cake)

Yay!! Glad he didn't leave you hanging on your birthday!