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Well, crap.
Some of you, especially if you saw my video a while back, know that I'm supposed to be in Atlanta on March 17 to audition for The Voice season 3. If you make that audition, you get to go on stage for the coaches.
SIL is also auditioning that day, so MIL and FIL decided it should be a family trip. They booked 3 nonrefundable rooms at a Hilton. They don't half-way do anything, lol. We were going to carpool to Atlanta (about a 5-hour drive) leaving on Friday the 16th, then coming home on Sunday the 18th.
About 4 days before my wedding in November, my mom (a nurse) tore the meniscus in her right knee while running to an emergency in the hospital. During her time on crutches, she tore the rotator cuff in her right shoulder. Ouch. She's had the surgery and PT on her knee already, and it's fine, but because she's on Worker's Comp and everything is super slow with them, they just scheduled her shoulder surgery today. For March 16.
So I have to cancel the Atlanta trip and my audition so I can be here for my mom when she has surgery. Which leaves my MIL with a nonrefundable room AT THE HILTON and me with slightly delayed dreams.
Or I could go to Atlanta anyway and leave my mom with less help after her surgery. Yeah right. FML. At least I can post an audition video online, but I'm not sure if that hurts my chances or not.
Re: Well, crap.
Post the video! You certainly have nothing to lose.
I'd say you could go and your mom would understand because she would want you to pursue your dreams - but honestly, I would want to be there for here after as many times she's been there for me.
There is always next year
I'd post a video online for sure.
Is there anyone that can take care of your mom Friday and Saturday and you'll be there for her on Sunday? What time is surgery? If it's in the morning can you see her afterwards/before you leave?
I feel like a jerk for suggesting this, but....
Could someone else help your mom while you're gone? Otherwise, submit a video, but man...the hotel and you've been looking forward to this. Family for sure comes first, but I'd still see if someone else could help for a couple of days.
ugh, that's upsetting about the timing.
I hope you can get everything worked out, but it is gonna suck to not be at both places at once. I know the audition was so important to you!
My mom doesn't want me to cancel the trip if I really want to go, but I would feel so weird about it. Her surgery isn't until 12:30 and has the potential to last several hours. It might be later Friday night before we get her home and settled. The IL's carpool to Atlanta is leaving around 6:00. I'm sure they'd be willing to wait for me, but still.
My dad is there, but I have two younger brothers that both live at home and there's a pet dog as well. So my dad is going to have to juggle cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, pet care, parenting, AND caring for my mom all by himself if I'm gone. Plus my youngest brother is homeschooled and my mom is his teacher, so either he's out of class for a while or my dad has to throw that onto his plate as well. I feel like I should at least do all the running around to the pharmacy, store, cook dinner for them one night, etc.
My audition time in Atlanta isn't until 5:00 p.m., and it's a 5-hour drive plus I lose an hour at the time zone switch, so I could theoretically leave at 11:00 on Saturday and go straight there. I don't know. The whole thing just sucks.
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Maybe I'm heartless, but I say go for it! If it's your dream and your mother would want you to follow it, then go! It's not like you'll never be back to help your dad with the running around. He'll just have to do it by himself the first couple of days.
I also worry that your mom might be upset that you stayed with her instead of what you had planned. That might complicate the surgery if she's stressed.
This. Also could your siblings stay with friends or family?
Really, I think it will be a big job for your Dad but he can do it, it's just a weekend.
DH and I have decided that we are going to stay in town on Friday, be there when my mom gets out of surgery, help out that night, etc.
Saturday morning we will call over there early and see if they need anything. If not, we're hopping in the car and going to ATL. If so, we'll stay in town and I'll make a video.
*sigh* Why can't the surgery have been THIS week?! Stupid booked up surgeons, lol.
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