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Need some quick advice before my IJL date!

So I just changed my phone number like 2 weeks ago and it has been really nice not to get text messages from random guys I dated 6 months ago all the time plus there's the guy that was just harrassing me sending pics of him giving me the finger... but I digress.  My phone has actually been really very nice a quiet and I like it.  So if this guys asks for my number tonight and I'm really not interested, what do I say to him (assuming he's not a totalass)?  I've never rejected a guy to his face before that I can think of.  I usually prefer to do it by text.  Or do I just give him the wrong number?  (that seems extraordinarily mean and immature).  Help

Re: Need some quick advice before my IJL date!

  • Huh. That is a toughie. I think you could always say. "You know I'm a little cautious about giving my number out, let me get yours."
  • You don't happen to have a google account, do you?  If so, I'd quickly sign in and get a google voice # and give that out. That's what I've been doing lately...  [:8]
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    "You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
  • imagepdx18:
    Huh. That is a toughie. I think you could always say. "You know I'm a little cautious about giving my number out, let me get yours."
    I like this approach!
  • imagearborgold:
    You don't happen to have a google account, do you?  If so, I'd quickly sign in and get a google voice # and give that out. That's what I've been doing lately...  [:8]

    great idea, although I really don't know much about it I just got a number... but he can still call me and it goes through right?  I would just set it up so that I block his number at some point?  At least I can't get text messages.

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    imagearborgold:
    You don't happen to have a google account, do you?  If so, I'd quickly sign in and get a google voice # and give that out. That's what I've been doing lately...  [:8]

    great idea, although I really don't know much about it I just got a number... but he can still call me and it goes through right?  I would just set it up so that I block his number at some point?  At least I can't get text messages.

    Yep. That's the point of it. You can also set it up so that calls to that # go straight to your google voicemail so it doesn't even ring. But you can worry about setting up all the fancy stuff later. 

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    "You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
  • I've done it. I would either say "I don't think there's enough chemistry between us / I don't think it feels right / etc. but I had a good time tonight. Sorry." or something along those lines. I've also said I'm cautious about giving my number out and asked for his instead or given out my e-mail (which is ridiculously easy to block people).
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