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Baby shower head scratcher
I was presented with a new to me situation and I am curious if I'm the only one who thinks it is strange. One of DH's very good friends is pregnant for the 2nd time. Her first child, a boy, is nearly 3. She is expecting a girl this go round.
Last week, I got an invitation to a baby shower. I was invited to, and attended, her baby shower for baby #1. I always thought that it was a no-no do a shower for each child because, in theory, you have everything you need from baby #1. Am I wrong in this?? The only reason I could see getting new stuff is that this baby's dad is not the same as baby #1's and maybe they're sharing custody and they need 2 sets of things?
I dunno, I just thought it was kinda tacky but maybe it is the new "thing". Simply curious what other people's thoughts are!
Re: Baby shower head scratcher
Ahhh, the sprinkle.
I agree, they shouldn't be done. Maybe if the first shower happened 10+ years ago, it's ok (maybe not). These are happening with more frequency as the years go by.
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Not a fan. Sure if you want to send a cute 'girly' something after the baby's arrival, but not a shower.
I know where I am from it is fairly common to have a shower for a second baby but usually only if the baby is of the opposite sex of baby #1 or if several years have passed between children.
A friend of mine from work just had her second baby and they are having "meet the baby" tea. No gifts are expected but I have a feeling people will probably bring a little something anyway since her first baby was a boy and this one is a girl.
I would totally send something cutesie and girlie after this kiddo is born but this is a shower with not one, but two registries that aren't small. The stuff she's registered for is stuff she got with her first baby so I guess that is the part I'm confused about. She already has a baby tub. She already has bed linens. She already has bottles. I dunno, maybe she got rid of stuff thinking she was going to have just one.
At least I know now that they're not as uncommon as I thought. I still don't like the idea and when DH and I have kids (if that ever happens), I would politely decline an offer to host a 2nd child baby shower.
They are the norm in part of DH's family and I find them absolutely tacky (they also throw showers for themselves, like BIL threw one for his wife, which I find inappropriate). They are a complete no-no in my family. We kept all of Liam's baby things (lending some to friends, but nothing I can't easily replace). And we aren't sure if we want another one.
Do not feel obligated to attend or buy anything for the "shower." I feel very strongly about these things, though
. I would, like you've already said you intend to, send something small and girly after the baby is born, but having a full blown shower with an extensive registry of things like swings, bathtubs, etc. is too much. It seems really gift-grabby.
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