Starting Over
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Online etiquette...
Say you've just signed up for an online dating site (not looking for anything, really, just sort of testing the waters), and someone you know views your profile. You haven't seen this person in several years, you only knew each other as married people, and you didn't even know they had gotten divorced. Do you shoot them a message just to say hi, or do you ignore the elephant in the room since you both know you viewed each other's profiles?
She's crafty - and she's just my type.
Re: Online etiquette...
Personally I think it's weird when people who know each other email on a dating site just to say hi. My intramural volleyball captain did this and it was super awkward afterwards because I couldn't figure out if he was doing it because he thought I was cute or if he just wanted to say hi (it was the latter).
However, if you're interested in getting together then I would definitely email him. You can always do a "Hey, funny we're both on here. It's been a while. Wanna grab a drink and catch up?" But if you're not interested, then I would ignore the fact that you saw him online.
I wouldn't email them unless you were open to meeting up with them.
I did this when I first signed up to OKC. I messaged a friend of a friend. When we first met, he had a long-term girlfriend that he was living with and I was married. I knew he'd broken up with his girlfriend, and I'd run into him a couple of times grocery shopping, but it was always really casual. Anyway, when I messaged him a casual, friendly message like "what's up, long time no talk to. I'm on OKC now too!" kind of thing, but he totally took it as, "hey hottie, I'm so happy we're both single now. Let's get together for dinner and drinks (and sex)." I was not interested in this guy at all, and then I felt all awkward because I had clearly given him the wrong impression by contacting him that way.
And that is my cautionary tale.