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NPR but wow. Slap in the face (kinda long)
I have been struggling w/my weight for awhile. I workout pretty much every day on my lunch hr, & run 2-3x a week, plus we walk our dog 2x a day (sometimes I don't go, sometimes I do). I have a thyroid disorder that is not currently being treated (according to the nurse my last TSH levels were normal, but I got the results in the mail yesterday, & I see that they have increased since my last blood draw which to me, is a red flag) Anyway, Im SUPER frustrated. Im not even a person that necessarily cares about the # on the scale, most of the time I don't even weigh myself, I just care how my clothes fit & how I feel.
So last night DH & I were hanging w/my parents who have been in town all week watching my niece & nephew b/c my sister & BIL were OOT. We have been @ my sisters house nearly every night helping my parents out (they are both retired, it gets to be a long day for them taking care of 2 kids). We pretty much have gotten home from work, fed & walked our dog & then left (which has been breaking my heart also). We are exhausted from our own work duties, which are not desk type jobs. This week was especially physically demanding for me, so Im just tired. On our drive over to their house I was pretty much falling asleep sitting up, DH kept asking me if I was still awake.
So after dinner & some welcome home projects w/the kids, my sister & her H finally get home. We all sit around & chat for awhile, I was laying on a couch next to MH, snuggling w/the kids & half-heartedly playing w/them, my sister was sitting down by my feet. We finally leave & go home & immediately get into bed (its like, 9pm Lol). & I get a text from my sister & it says "so, when are you due?!" It took me a minute to figure out wtf she meant, & then, I realized she was asking me if I was pregnant. I can't even believe I responded, but when I did I said "not. just fat thanks" & am laying in bed just stewing, trying not to cry. She texts me back & says thats not what she meant at all, that I just looked tired & like I wasn't feeling well. Um, yeah! B/c I wasn't!! Nevermind the fact that I have a job & a life & perhaps I wasn't feeling well, you have to jump to the conclusion that Im pregnant?! UGH!
Sorry, I just needed to vent this. I am still pissed about this today. Its always the same thing w/her, & wtf is it her business anyways? I know she just wants us to have a baby, but how the eff does she know that Im not struggling w/some health related issue that prevents me from having kids? & since she has her head so far up her a$s about "her" life all the time, that she doesn't take the time to ask me, or even consider, whats going on in my life, ever. (thats a whooollle nother story in itself, which is probably what makes this a big deal to me, & I can't really explain fully here, so it probably makes this incident not seem like such a big deal, but given the history, it really is to me). This weight thing is really pissing me off, & the constant inquiries about the status of my uterus are enough to put a person over the edge! Even my patients ask me probably once a week if I have kids, or if Im planning on having kids. Strangers!! GR!
/vent. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest!
Re: NPR but wow. Slap in the face (kinda long)
Ditto...
I'm so sorry - and it must be very frustrating.
I know how you feel - I've recently (past 3 years) gained a lot of weight, and hypothyroidism runs in my family. I'm too scared to go get tested. It's hard feeling good about yourself, and I agree - it's not the # on the scale, but how you feel about yourself and the way your clothes feel!
And no matter how you look - you'll always be you!
We're here to listen (or read, rather!)
Sometimes I really hate being a woman. It seems like men can take a comment like that and think "whatever dude" and it ruins our week. Of course being emotionless morons must get old for them sometimes too. LOL.
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Anyway, that stinks and I really think you should say something to your sister so she realizes what she did. Sounds like you guys have some other issues you should get out in the air too. It's hard to say, but I think communicating almost always makes you feel better in the end.
Until then, a big WTF from me to your sis ;-)
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