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If you had a pet that passed away please come in....and a PIP
My Boxer passed away two months ago. We are still very sad.
Did you eventually get a new pet? How long after your pet passed away did get another one?
My MIL pissed me off the other day. She keeps saying not to get another dog because that dog will never replace our Sable. I'm not looking to REPLACE her. Grrr
Re: If you had a pet that passed away please come in....and a PIP
It is okay to get another pet (OF COURSE you're not replacing her, your MIL is being thoughtless). And it is okay to not feel ready yet. After our dog passed away, we started fostering. It took us a few years of doing that before we were ready to adopt another dog. That's what felt right for us. Our little cat died a few months ago and we have no plans to get another cat for many years but after a few months we did adopt a little parakeet that needed a home. He isn't at all a replacement but he did bring a little more joy to our house.
I'm so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
My condolences as well.
I was in third grade when my cat died. We found her in the driveway lifeless. I was devastated! My parents agreed to adopt another cat for our family on the Feast Day of St. Francis of Assisi. That was almost 3 months later.
How do the kids feel?
Try planing a family outing to the local shelter to see how everyone feels around dogs after your Sable passed. If you guys fall in love with another dog then, go for it! If it still hurts, wait a little longer and try again.September 2013 Moms Siggy Challenge: The Thing I Miss Most Since Being Pregnant
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I honestly think I am still in shock. I just felt like she would be here forever.
She was AMAZING!! Stayed in our yard w/ no leash, great w/ the kids, etc. Miss her so much. Neighbors loved her. I keep hearing people tell me that we will never find another dog like her.
We are just great pet owners and I want to get another pet in the future. Just keep feeling guilty KWIM?
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I agree with the PP who said that your MIL is being really insensitive. What a lousy thing to say. It would be a tribute to the joy your Boxer brought to your life to bring another animal into your home - but everyone mourns differently and in their own way.
We lost my beloved Xena this past September, and her brother Milo the year before. I was completely crushed. In December, we adopted Callie, a sweet 3-year old calico, and 2 weeks ago, we adopted Gus, an 11-week old kitten in need of a home. I felt ready by the time we got them to add more animals to our home, but that's really an individual thing. My MIL and FIL lost their dog almost 15 years ago and they're still not ready for another pet. Everyone is different.
You'll know when you're ready - give yourself and your family as much time as you need. But when you are ready, please don't feel guilty or let anyone else guilt you. Getting a new dog doesn't diminish the love you had for your old one.
Here is my Sable
She loved sitting in the sun!
So sorry for your loss.
My grandmother had a dog that the whole family loved, she was the best dog I've ever met. She loved everyone, us kids most of all. When she passed it was horrible and it was the first time I saw my grandma cry.
It got easier over time, but five years later she is still not ready to consider another dog.
Don't feel guilty, you will know when the time is right.
It took me about a year and a half to feel ready for a new pup after my first one passed. I had a very strong bond with her and felt a lot of confusing emotions about getting a new dog so I waited until I felt ready and my feelings were more clear. Everyone is different though and what works for one person, may not work for someone else. Everyone has different time tables of when they are ready. Some people are ready right away, others take more time.
I'd trust your gut and your own feelings.
Tell MIL to mind her own business.
My sweet KittyCat died on November 19th and we brought home two new cats on January 6.
As for having an awesome dog and never finding another... it's so not true. We had a phenomenal lab when I was growing up, then the next dog was also awesome, now my parent's have another (after that one passed), and she is just as amazing as the other two (they have two other dogs too, but not quite as "special"). I think they must have awesome luck plus a nurture aspect because all three that I described seemed to be one in a million.
Anyway, that was a long drawn out way of saying one dog doesn't replace the other, but you can still have other amazing pets.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
When I was a kid, we lost 2 dogs. There was less than a year in between getting another dog. It was just enough time to grieve, then realize how much my parents and I missed having a dog around. To this day, we still talk about the dogs we lost when I was a kid. But now, the talking has definately gone from sadness to happy memories/jokes about the dogs. Only time will help you.
That being said, we never replaced any dog we lost. We simply rescued another dog who needed a family. We knew how happy our dogs were with us, and we knew they would want us to save another dog like we saved them. And now I'm tearing up because I tear up every time I say that sentence. Best of luck to you and your family.
I am so sorry! I am in the same boat though. We lost our dog on 1/1/12... he was like yours...great in the yard, with the kids. After it happened I told my husband I needed years to grieve and couldn't even think about adding another dog to our family.
I got a phone call about a week later from my aunt telling me they knew of some puppies who needed to be adopted but not for about 2 months. I thought about it and didn't even tell my husband. What got me was when my 2 year old walked in the house and started calling for Rocko. I lost it and decided that a new dog would help us heal and atleast take our minds off of Rocko. I still think about him daily and I miss him so much. The new puppy won't ever replace Rocko but we say Rocko sent him to us
I'm sorry for your loss.
I adopt new pets relatively soon after a loss. It's not to replace them, it's because I know how many animals are in shelters, and I think the best way to honor the memory of my pet is to save another life. If that makes sense.
But everyone is different. You'll know when you're ready.
ETA: And I love the name Sable.
That's also the name of the fluffy dog in my siggy.
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