Newbie needs help

lowertheheavens

Hi ladies, I know you all give really good advice and I'm getting ready to end a long term relationship that I know in my heart is not going to work. I'm scared cause I do still care about the guy and I know I'm gonna get the whole 'well let's just try one more time' and 'think about the good times' deal (basically 'I'm not letting you break up with me') which I'm sure some of you have heard before.  Any advice on how to stick to your guns and not give into that situation?  Or how to respond even?

+Black Kitty+

lowertheheavens:

Hi ladies, I know you all give really good advice and I'm getting ready to end a long term relationship that I know in my heart is not going to work. I'm scared cause I do still care about the guy and I know I'm gonna get the whole 'well let's just try one more time' and 'think about the good times' deal (basically 'I'm not letting you break up with me') which I'm sure some of you have heard before.  Any advice on how to stick to your guns and not give into that situation?  Or how to respond even?

Just tell him, sorry I've made up my mind.  Assuming you have, you sound like you are still on the fence a bit.

MintChocoChip

You tell him you're done and walk away. If you're living together, take your things and leave. He doesnt have a force field around you that will make you stay his gf. This reminds me of a high school boyfriend who kept telling me we weren't broken up. You say it, it's over. Breakups don't have to be mutual. If you're done, you're done. 

dmarie979

Remind yourself of why you want to break up with him. And end it as soon as possible. i.e. if you have stuff at his place, clean it out ASAP. I find the cleaner the break, the easier it is to stick to your guns and not get caught up in everything.