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Was I too mean?
I just had to put my dog of almost 15 years (Fila Brasilero) to sleep on Valentine's Day. I got her at 6 weeks and never spent a day without her for the entire time. I am having trouble getting over her. I keep waking up at night thinking I hear her collar/tags jingle, etc. I MISS MY GIRL! 
So, I have vocalized for years to my entire family that I DO NOT want another Fila, it would be too much expectation. My dad called the other day and said he had put a deposit on a Fila puppy for himself AND for me! He said it would help me get over losing my dog. I told him I was not ready for a new puppy of any breed and I have no intention of getting another Fila. He is now completely peeved at me, saying I am being too sensitive, etc. I made him cancel the purchase of the one puppy. He is really mad.
Am I being to harsh with him or too sensitive?
Re: Was I too mean?
And I would doubt the responsibility of a breeder that would allow someone to reserve a puppy as a surprise gift.
Have you seen my monkey?
You aren't ready and while it's hard to for other people to understand or respect it, you did the right thing by telling him so.
It's unfortunate that not everyone can understand our feelings and our grief. A lot of people (friends and family) try to help in ways they know how, which may not be what you need.
He's the one being insensitive. You just suffered a terrible loss and you deserve to to grieve - all the time you need, however long that may be. Hopefully your dad can understand that soon.
I'm sorry for your loss.