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Name change and Facebook (earlier posts got me thinking)
So... next week will be my finalized divorce and my name will also be changed in the process.
Anyone changed their name on Facebook? If so, how did it go? I have no problem with changing my name at work and the like but Facebook feels like a whole another ballgame. It is almost like an announcement. I don't even have my status or relationship status displayed and that won't change. I am just curious how it went for others.
Re: Name change and Facebook (earlier posts got me thinking)
I changed the name on my FB the evening my divorce was final. The majority of my friends on FB knew what was happening in my life, so no one questioned it. I would just do it without thinking twice about it. If anyone does post on your wall about it, just say, "its a new day and the old you".
Good luck!
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That is interesting... You know, I'm totally dreading going to the "timeline"format for this reason. The timeline of the last 2 years of my life is something I would like to avoid thinking about.
I changed mine when I decided to file for divorce, and changed my relationship status at the same time. I should have handled it better, since I didn't tell a lot of people beforehand and didn't really tell him for certain before I did it, so I got a ton of comments on that name/ relationship change:
"huh?"
"is this a joke"
"WTF happened here"
eta, i guess to actually answer your question: It went fine. In the grand scheme of the divorce, it was a small thing, and more emotional for you I think than for any onlookers.
This! I changed mine the day my divorce was finalized. I only have a handful of people that are my FB friends and they all knew about it, so it wasn't a big deal.
I actually changed mine before the divorce was finalized (gasp!). I changed it when I moved several states away.
No one really commented, except for one rather uncouth individual that I know down here, who made a joke about it.
::shrug::
Everything else will be changed as soon as everything is finalized (which better be soon - grrr).
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Yes, I figured it was more of a big deal for myself than anyone else. I have a feeling I will get some responses because I have been super busy in the last 8 months that a a good portion on my friends list do not know and some of them I am close to but I just really haven?t had the opportunity to share with yet.
A couple days after he left, I went back to my maiden name on Facebook but kept my married name (it's grey in parenthesis). I was married for 6+ years so some people have only known me with my married name. No one has ever said anything. People still don't know I am almost divorced.
ETA: I removed my relationship status. I went from "married" to nothing. I will also remove my married name (in parenthesis) when more people here know me with my maiden name.
AND with the new timeline thing, you can't see the status on your main profile anymore. People would have to click the "about" section to see it.
I changed my name on FB before the divorce was finalized, about a month after we separated (about a week after we filed papers.) I kept the married name in parentheses for a few months and then removed it too. I changed my status from "married" to nothing. Most people didn't even notice, even when I changed my relationship status from nothing to "In a Relationship" with someone other than my X.
I actually created a brand new FB page. I was friends on there with people I didn't really care about, and some of his family as well. I had also been stalked by a crazy woman on there and threatened. So I just decided for a fresh start, and I create a brand new page with my maiden name, before the divorce was finalized. Now I just have people I actually like on there, and set it to super private so the stalker couldn't find me/see my page quite as easily.
I am sorry you had to deal with a stalker, not fun at all. I think I am going to "clean-up" my friends list before changing my name now that I think about it.
I first hid my relationship status the next time I logged on after I moved out. Then I deleted all the wedding pics and untagged myself in other wedding photos/ photos with XH. It was several months later, when we had submitted the final divorce paperwork but long before it was final, when I just changed my name, no hoopla at all. The day it was final, I just wrote "Yay!" and since my friends and families are incapable of keeping anything to themselves, everyone knew about the divorce without me saying anything, people just wrote back "yay" or something else generic about moving onward and upward.
I was a little surprised that no one said anything, but see above about my blabber mouth family. At least they are kind blabbermouths