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Hmmm... I'm a horrible friend.
So, I'm going to this wedding with my good friend this weekend. I have no idea who any of these people are but since she called me saying no one would go with her (yes, she's one of those people who needs other people to go to things with her) and I haven't seen her in awhile, I agreed to go. I'm already a little bummed out because I'm missing St. Patrick's Day with my other awesome friends but I know I'll have a some-what good time.
I get this text today from her that said her Aunt died. She wasn't that close with her but that's still horrible news to hear. I apologized and asked her a little bit about it. Apparently the funeral is on Saturday during the day and the wedding is at night. She told me we would be driving back into town for the funeral and then leaving again for the wedding.
I'm dreading this. I hate funerals. Not even that, I have NO clue who these people are. I want to be there for her, but I'm even more bummed that I'll be so close to my house to have to turn right back around for this wedding.
I can't bail, but this freaking sucks!
Re: Hmmm... I'm a horrible friend.
If she is driving back into town for the funeral, can't she just pick you up then? Afterwards?
To be fair, I also wouldn't want to go to a wedding alone.
whoa, I wouldn't want to go to a funeral for someone I have never met either, those are always depressing!
You are a great friend if you endure all of that with her (funeral + wedding). I'd be tempted to say that something came up and you can't make the funeral but then again she seems like the type that could really use your support and would remember that you offered it. (based on the limited knowledge provided)
Good luck, that's a tough situation. Hope the wedding at least has an open bar that never runs out!
She's expecting me to go for moral support. We're just different in that aspect. I understand her wanting me to be there for her, and I want to be there for her but if it were me I'd want to handle it alone.
So I'm just trying to tread lightly because I don't really know how to handle the situation.
As far as the wedding thing, see above. The same rules apply. These are all of her friends/co-workers and I feel like I'm just going to be there in the beginning when things are awkward and then she'll hang out with the rest of her friends. I'm not too concerned, I can find a good time anywhere. This just isn't want I would prefer to do. Hence the I'm a horrible friend. Friends should want to be there.
She owes you BIG time!
FWIW, I went as a "date" with a guy to a wedding that I didn't know anyone at all, and he was actually a groomsman! So I had to spend quite a bit of time sitting around alone while he was doing photos, standing in the toast line, and all that. Luckily I was able to get a nice buzz going early that wasn't too noticeable and being that we are in TX, there were plenty of chatty/friendly other folks that made some small talk with me, but I can totally get that it's not always "fun" to mingle at those kind of things. It still ended up being a pretty good time even though I kind of felt like a wedding crasher since I had no relation to the bride/groom, only a groomsman.
Oh, I will have a good buzz. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who would feel like a wedding crasher. I do think I'll have a good time, I'm a chatty person... I just hope it isn't full of super lame people