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POLL- Participating in weddings
Besides your own, have you been in any other weddings? Not necessarily as a BM or MOH but flower girl, coordinator, singer, etc?
Did you like the experience?
If you have not ever been asked to be in one, would you like to if someone did ask or do you prefer not to be involved in all that and just be a guest?
Any best parts/worst parts of being involved?
Re: POLL- Participating in weddings
Besides your own, have you been in any other weddings? Not necessarily as a BM or MOH but flower girl, coordinator, singer, etc? yes, I was flower girl in my cousins wedding when I was very young, a pianist for the entire ceremony and preamble for my Aunt's wedding when in Jr High, and I have been bridesmaids in 2 weddings.
Did you like the experience? The flower girl one didn't go so well, I was acting up and wouldn't behave for half of the photos they wanted to take and wouldn't smile in the ones that I was in. I still get heat from the family from time to time over that, but I was 4 years old, people!!
The other ones were fine and I really enjoyed the experience. I had to make a speech for my bestie as a MOH which made me a little nervous but luckily her wedding was pretty small with only around 40 people so it wasn't so bad.
If you have not ever been asked to be in one, would you like to if someone did ask or do you prefer not to be involved in all that and just be a guest? n/a
Any best parts/worst parts of being involved?
I liked getting little attendant gifts that some of them gave me.
Worst, having to be there at set times for all the extra work like rehearsal dinner and fittings.
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Besides your own, have you been in any other weddings? Not necessarily as a BM or MOH but flower girl, coordinator, singer, etc? - Yes, I've been the MOH in both of my sisters weddings, I was a bridesmaid in one of my college friend's wedding and I was the flower girl in my aunt's wedding when I was like 5. I was shy and hid behind my mom and refused to go down the aisle
Did you like the experience? - not really, I prefer not to be in them, they're just stress that I don't need or want
If you have not ever been asked to be in one, would you like to if someone did ask or do you prefer not to be involved in all that and just be a guest? - rather be a guest
Any best parts/worst parts of being involved? - worst is having to deal w/ all the other cooky bridesmaids. None of my brides were bridezillas, so that was good at least.
Last year, 2 weeks before my wedding, I was a BM in another cousin's wedding (different side of the family). It was not as fun. More drama, and much more money than being a FG.
I was a FG for my uncle's first wedding when I was 6 or so. I don't remember a lot of it but I was really shy so I probably didn't enjoy it very much.
Other than that, I've just been a guest. Honestly I don't want to be in a wedding, not that into them to be honest. I once thought I'd be the MOH for my best friend's wedding when it happened (she was my MOH), but she decided to lose her damn mind and doesn't talk to me anymore, so she probably wouldn't care to tell me she was even getting married.
Word on the grapevine is my brother is planning to propose, and I hope I'm not asked to be in the wedding.
Besides your own, have you been in any other weddings? Not necessarily as a BM or MOH but flower girl, coordinator, singer, etc? I was a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding.
Did you like the experience? Eh, I suppose. It was ok.
If you have not ever been asked to be in one, would you like to if someone did ask or do you prefer not to be involved in all that and just be a guest? I prefer to just be a guest.
Any best parts/worst parts of being involved? I hated my dress! It was too short, black, too 'sexy', too young for me, didn't fit right...I just didn't like it. But she got them from JCPenney's and hers was the white version.
Oh wait, I just remembered I was a BM in my dad's second marriage when I was around 8. I wore a hot pink dress that my ex-stepmom made and changed out of it right after the ceremony.
I barely remember the wedding though. It was at their house, with the reception on the front lawn with the entire neighborhood invited. I'm pretty sure I spent most of it inside watching TV with my step-sister.
I was a flower girl when I was 5. Right before the wedding I broke my arm and got a full cast to my shoulder... we wrapped it in lace, and I got to dangle my basket off it, but I remember little other than that.
Two years ago I was the MOH in my bestie's wedding. I enjoyed it, and loved the black pearl necklace she gave me as a gift.
It was a little hectic, making sure everything was taken care of since we were doing stuff last minute, but she's so laid back that it was a great experience.
Besides your own, have you been in any other weddings? Not necessarily as a BM or MOH but flower girl, coordinator, singer, etc? I was a reader in a good friend of mine's wedding back in September, and may be a reader for another friend this May
Did you like the experience? I hate being in front of people, or public speaking, but overall it was fun
If you have not ever been asked to be in one, would you like to if someone did ask or do you prefer not to be involved in all that and just be a guest? As long as it was someone close to, yes, but I enjoy being a guest.
Any best parts/worst parts of being involved? Best was the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner because I had been friends with the family for so long, that it was nice to catch up with everyone, without having to distract from the actual wedding.
Worst: Being in front of everyone, and getting a hard time from the mother of the bride (and my confirmation sponsor) for not receiving communion.
MOH once, former wedding planner
Love everything but the cost. It feels good to know that someone considers you to be a close enough friend to stand up at their wedding.
Besides your own, have you been in any other weddings? Not necessarily as a BM or MOH but flower girl, coordinator, singer, etc? Yes, I've been a MOH once and I will be this summer for my sister. I have also been a BM in 3 weddings, a JR BM when I was young, and I read a poem during another friends wedding.
Did you like the experience? Some more than others. Being a MOH is stressful and it's even more stressful when you live across the country. But in general, I love weddings and feel happy that someone wanted me to be a part of their day.
If you have not ever been asked to be in one, would you like to if someone did ask or do you prefer not to be involved in all that and just be a guest?
Any best parts/worst parts of being involved? Sometimes it's stressful and it's definitely expensive but the fun of being involved makes up for it.
Never been in a wedding. Heck, I've been to two weddings my whole life, besides mine, and where I'm from wedding parties don't exist.
I'd love to be in one! I have a feeling my BFF will be proposed to by the end of this year, which means that, unless they elope, I'm candidate MOH number 1!
Besides your own, have you been in any other weddings? Not necessarily as a BM or MOH but flower girl, coordinator, singer, etc?
I've been a bridesmaid in about 4 weddings and was the MOH in one of those. I was asked to be in a coworker's wedding also and reluctantly agreed but the wedding never happened anyway which was no surprise.
Did you like the experience?
Yes. It was for people I'm closed to (my sisters, BFF, and cousin) so it was worth it and an honor.
If you have not ever been asked to be in one, would you like to if someone did ask or do you prefer not to be involved in all that and just be a guest?
If I'm not a BM I would rather just be a guest. The other options like reading scare me because I hate public speaking.
Any best parts/worst parts of being involved?
The best part is being there for them and I also like getting dressed up.
The worst part is all the money, IMO. Paying for a dress, planning showers, bachelorette party, getting hair done, etc. gets expensive. But, like I said, the weddings I've been in were for people I'm closed to so the time and money was worth it.
I was a flower girl in 2 weddings. I had a good time but I was young enough to enjoy it. I did hate all the waiting that seems to be done while you're in a wedding party and the pictures but I was...9.
There are only 7 weddings that I'll ever want to be in. My 4 sisters, my brother, and my 2 best friends. I'd be ok not being in it but if they were to ask, I'd say yes. Everyone else, I'd say no. It's a lot of work being part of a wedding party.
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I helped with general stuff in my mom's wedding.
I politely declined all other invitations to be MOH, etc.
Besides your own, have you been in any other weddings? Not necessarily as a BM or MOH but flower girl, coordinator, singer, etc?
I have been a bridesmaid twice
Did you like the experience?
one of them I did, the other I did not
If you have not ever been asked to be in one, would you like to if someone did ask or do you prefer not to be involved in all that and just be a guest?
It really depends on who. It has to be someone I am really close with and someone who I can handle dealing with their friends.
Any best parts/worst parts of being involved?
ohh jeez....the best part was being able to stand up next to one of the best friends as she married the love of her life. This girl was one of my best friends from high school and I loved being able to be there for her.
The worst....where do I begin? Dealing with the other bridesmaids and MOH who didn't have any idea of the responsibilities and importance of the job.
the first "wedding" i was in, the "bride" had already been married for a year and a half before throwing a wedding. I was only asked because her numbers were off when one of her bridesmaids told her to go :beep: herself (that should have been my first clue) Then she wanted all the same treatments of a bride meaning the shower and bachelorette party even though they were married for over a year and it couldn't be like a girls night in she wanted the limo in Boston and club hopping. She also asked us to pay for our bouquets because she didn't have the money to get bridesmaids bouquets.