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S/O- Fighting with Friends. I've got some friend TIP.
Currently I am going through this issue where one of my close friends (or so I thought?) has just dropped all communication. I would rather fight than have someone just stop talking to me for no real apparent reason.
We were room mates during college, and she is in a different country for her job. Normally I would go with the "she is just busy" thing, but she has always made time to skype with me. We've even had discussions about how the "too busy" excuse is bullshyt. Time differences (she is a day ahead) can be wonky, but we have worked it out before.
She was a bridesmaid at my wedding, and has helped me through many trying times in my life. I also have been there for her when her mom committed suicide (she had to find the body), her own suicidal thoughts, and many romantic relationships that have failed. As I say, we've made time and suddenly my emails are going unanswered & my skype voicemails unreturned. This is not normal behavior for her.
If someone cares enough about you then they will make time. Our last exchange of email was July of 2011. She said nothing when Abby was born.
We are facebook friends and I do see her activity. I have sent her facebook mail AND email to her regular account basically expressing a desire to catch up. Nothing. I have no idea what I could have done to upset her because I've been making regular efforts to ask her about her life, and get updates on HER. My life is baby-centric right now so it is so nice to hear about other people's lives, if that makes sense.
So anyway, I am feeling butthurt. We all know that Betty is a sensitive heifer, but have you all ever experienced this? To my knowledge there is no catalyst for this deep freeze. She won't talk to me to let me in on what might be wrong.
She does have depression issues, and tends to withdraw. However, she seems happy traveling (yes, do see her pictures etc.) and living her life. I just feel like I am no longer a part of it, and that makes me sad.
I hate it that we are just becoming facebook acquaintances. I know its stupid and that that is the way the cookie crumbles sometimes, but I wish it could be different.
Tell me your tales of weird friendship demise, and what do you think I should do?
I'm kind of giving up on trying to contact her. I've sent email once every couple of months with no success, and I should probably take the hint that she doesn't want to deal with me anymore. She hasn't defriended me on facebook, so that says something unless she is just too lazy to do it.
I has sad. 
Re: S/O- Fighting with Friends. I've got some friend TIP.
I'm sorry. That's tough and I don't think you're being overly sensitive about it.
Maybe she feels like there isn't that much left to connect on now that you have a kid and she's abroad? I don't know what her reasons might be, but it sounds like she isn't interested in the effort required to keep up contact.
I've had a few friendships die out this way because once we weren't in college or at work together it was harder to get in touch and it turns out we just weren't that close to begin with. That doesn't sound like the case here though and that sucks.
That is really sad. I think it's especially crappy that she never said anything about Abby.
Hopefully it's just a phase, or it's one of those things where you'll learn the reason for all of this later and it will make sense. Who knows? But I don't think you're being too sensitive about it. You two were always so close, and to have her 'absent' during such an important time in your life is going to feel disappointing and a little strange. Sorry Betty.
I don't get this at all. To cut off all contact...how rude. I don't know what I would do, probably give up eventually. But I'd be really bummed about it.
I think you're justified in being butthurt about this one Betts, that sucks.
That sucks Betty. I'd say stop trying, but if it was me I might (might) consider sending one last ditch email/phone call effort to just simply ask why and what happened.
I'm not sure if I would or not though considering how many times you've reached out with no response.
You definitely have the right to be hurt. I've had this same thing with several people I was very close to at one point. After the last one, I realized something. It always seems to happen when really great things are happening in my life, and not in theirs. At some point, the really great stuff can no longer be discussed without seeming insensitive, and their really crappy stuff can't be discussed because they feel like they're on the wrong end of the life spectrum. It's a strange thing, because I love to just shoot the shyte, life isn't about competing with the people I love and care for.
In each instance, it's been with people who really compare themselves to others and like to keep track on who's who and what's what. Maybe she's irked about you having Abby and can't come right out and say it? Maybe she's in a bad place and can't bring herself to be happy for you and just shut the door for a while? No matter what, I find it cowardly and rude to just ignore your friends, old or new. I'm sorry.
I'm sorry Betty.
I had a friend who lived up the road from me when I moved to the Seattle area. It was great because when I moved here I only knew my H and was unemployed. We were hanging out and everything was great. Then a year later she stops returning my phone calls/texts, defriends me on Facebook and moves. No idea what happened at all.