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Monday Randoms
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My coworker scheduled a meeting from 9-10:30 this morning. I'm in the office at 7:30 so I'm not inconvenienced by this at all, but she sent the invite at 7:45. That is making me irrationally annoyed.
Re: Monday Randoms
this is mine:
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/64395895.aspx
I paid off one of my student loans over the weekend - woo hoo!
Also, we saved quite a bit of money (unexpectedly) last week wedding wise by booking a shelter at a local park for our wedding ceremony. We'll get married in front of or under a circle shaped shelter and set the chairs up in the big grassy field in front of it for the attendants. It's a park we frequent and close to our apartment, so it is meaningful and it is real pretty in the fall with the changing colors. We also found a wedding officiant - someone I work with who is certified as a minister and wants to work with us.
Abby had a little rice cereal off a spoon last night. She loved it & was a messy bess.
There is a couple that H & I are friends with from back home. Their son will be a year in May. They have always scheduled parties and get-togethers. I love it that they invite us, but lately they've been starting the events at 7pm at night. We have to drive an hour to and an hour back. 8pm is Abby's bedtime.
The husband of the couple is put out that we don't attend more often. We've gone a couple of times, but it was a disaster staying up past bedtime. Abby cried so hard she dry-heaved all the way home. It was a mess. Their kid stays up until midnight and later with no problems, and the husband of this couple says that we are somehow spoiling Abby by putting her to bed "so early". a.) I Thought 8pm was on the later side of things. b.) No, I can't come drink with you until midnight, have my husband (who works hard and does not drink) drive home with a screaming infant. Its not fun.
So I am somewhat irritated that that they keep on complaining that we don't attend. I don't expect them to work their social events around Abby's bedtime, but I have to do what's best for our family too. If I decline its not that its a personal smackdown against them. Its that its a pain in arse for me. I've seen it all over the nest "an invitation is not a subpoena".
I got another email from the husband-half asking if we were angry with them. To which I replied, "NO. I am not angry with you. I can't attend parties every weekend an hour away that start in the evening. Maybe later we can do that, but we've tried and it doesn't work. I AM a little peeved you keep thinking this is something personal against you. We love you guys and will see you again soon when it works for us."
We have invited them to meet us half-way and something always happens to where they can't. We've even invited them here, but they prefer to host at their home. So it is what it is, but I feel we've been more than flexible and they are still butthurt about it. Its annoying.
I've never wished I had a job more than today. My dad and sister goo back to work today (first time since my mom passed), and I'm so jealous. The thought of going somewhere, seeing people and having something to do sounds good right now.
I have memorial stuff to plan and do, but that doesn't really keep my mind off things.
Maybe I will do something really productive like put makeup on only one half of my face, so I can see the difference. That's the best idea I've had so far...
Today Instead of Working
Today Instead of Working
1. The big boss is out for a week and the middle boss is not here yet today (no idea why). Ahhh, I can breathe.
2. I need a toddler-free weekend like whoa.
3. I got Hulu plus and started watching Jersey Shore (season 1). They're all so ridiculous, but overall, hard to truly dislike. It's weird.
CONGRATS DL! Those are both SO awesome!
Betty, why can't these friends of you do an afternoon cookout or something? Or are they all about the evening drinking?
I have no desire to work today and yet there is so much work to be done. I need a motivation pill or something.
Betty... why can't you leave Abby with a sitter so you can stay out past bedtime?
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Mah kid's 1st birthday was on Saturday.
He ate cake and then threw up on me.
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Big Kudos to DL-- Adios student loans. That is a big deal. Congrats lady.
BBE-- yeah, this couple LOVES to drink. I'm talking booze-hounds. I also know that the husband works 3 part-time jobs (wife is the breadwinner with her secretary job) and they have later times because that is when he gets off. They used to do afternoons and it was great. Now its all evenings and well, it just doesn't work.
That is a good idea. I admit I've been really stupidly sad about the idea of using a sitter. Its time though I think to stop being a wimp and just do it. Anyone had any success with sittercity or care.com to find sitters? We don't have any family close by or friends that are available which is part of the reason I've not gotten a sitter before.
I do admit that part of it is that I'm worried she'll melt down the entire time we're gone, or that something will happen. Its all first-time mom paranoia, I'm sure.
I spent Sunday digging in the dirt and it made me irrationally happy. I dropped a lot of coin at the local nursery and I didn't even care.
I found out this morning that my teammates and I will be moving off client site and back to the mothership in the near future. I couldn't stop smiling. Nice, professional people. A modern office environment. Good (free) coffee. An onsite cafe. Privacy. An open network. Parking. PARKING Y'ALL. It'll only be temporary (until the client site moves to its new digs), but still.
I get to work from home on Thursday and Friday this week. I'll be in the hammock.
I had a mini-meltdown last night about money. I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing and it's causing me to feel stuck and panicky. Am I supposed to be aggressively investing it above and beyond my 401K? Just shoving it into savings? And speaking of my 401K, how much should I be taking out of my paycheck? Am I taking out too little? I wish there was one authoritative guide on this. Even the sheer amount of books on this subject makes me feel intimidated. What if I pick the wrong one?
Little man has been pooping 1x/week for the last 3 weeks. He had xrays on Friday of his bowels and drank lots of apple juice this weekend. He still hasn't pooped and was up screaming in pain every hour on the hour all weekend long. He has to go back to the ped for a full blown enima this week.
If he would just crap, life would be much sweeter.
It was 86 yesterday. Normally we still have snow on the ground this time of year. It's glorious.
I didn't sleep well and I'm tired and grumpy and have a headache. I wish I could have called in dead to work.
My tire has a slow leak and was completely flat this morning. Thankfully there is a gas station a few hundred feet from the house so I could reinflate it, but I'm anasshole because I've been putting off getting it repaired just cause I'm lazy. I need to make that appointment today.
I'm supposed to go to my parents' after work this evening. My dad's birthday is next week and his "gift" that he wanted was for him, my mom, me and my brother to all go to some talk a WWII Vet is giving at a local church or something. I really freaking dont want to go because it takes about an hour to get there and I probably wont get home til like 10 and I just dont freaking feel like going. But they already bought tickets. FUUUUUUUUCKKKK!
Did I mention I'm grumpy?
Threw a St. Patty's party for the husband, about 50 people came and it was overall a success.
HOWEVER, I am still REALLY angry because during said party, I was walking my friend around upstairs (showing her our house) and went in the bathroom with her to show her our "Golden Girls" bathroom that is our next renovation project and right in the middle of the floor was a BLOODY TAMPON.
Someone just left a bloody tampon in the middle of my bathroom floor.
I stood there in silence and just stared at it, then her.
I had a bottle of "Kaboom" so I sprayed the hell out of it, and picked it up with paper towels and threw it out.
And Im still REALLY angry about it. REALLY angry. LOL
*I invited 3 of my own friends. It was one of his friends/friend's wives!My condolences on the loss of your mom...
bwahahaha this made me laugh so hard. I'm sorry, srs but yay for baby birthdays!
Betty, either get a babysitter or decline. Either way, you're being just as bad as they are by getting snippy about how you both think the other should live. You don't owe them an explanation. If they can't deal, oheffingwell.
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OMG
I'll be honest - the only time we left DS until he was over 2 with a sitter it was family or close friends - the idea of a complete stranger watching him didn't sit well with me. We found an awesome girl through a friend that uses her as a nanny during the day most days when I was ready though. My friend found her through sittercity.com originally.
I found sitters and found work as a sitter via care.com.
Can you ask for recommendations from Abby's daycare provider?
FWIW, you aren't avoiding a meltdown by not leaving her with a sitter now. You're only making it worse for when she gets older and you have no choice but to leave her with a sitter. Check references, talk to families the chick has previously worked for. Any sitter worth her salt will be able to soothe your kid fairly soon after you leave.
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He waited until we got home to let the digestive pyrotechnics loose, so at least there was a clean shirt nearby.
I forgot to mention... DS also had the pewps for most of the day Sunday as well. But that's probably because of the cold (read: snot-fest) that he's been fighting for the past week and a half, moreso than the party. The kid prefers to suck and swallow his snot rather than letting us suck it out of his nose, so... what goes in, must come out.
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I'm glad that a parent (HS) was in the same mindset I was about Betty.
I'm having a hard time with a lot of parents right now. I have a friend who now thinks the entire world should revolve around her because she has a child. But it doesn't. It's possible to do these fun things without forcing your friends to work around Abby's bedtime.
And I agree with HS. The meltdown will happen if it's going to happen. Is she going to DIE if she has a meltdown with a sitter? No. You're going to end up living in a bubble (very lonely) if you avoid all situations that might not be perfectly conducive to Abby's preferences.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Thank you, Imoan & HS. I know this is true, and we're going to have to take the plunge soon. My dad has to have surgery that will involve an ICU stay and I can't have Abby in the hospital (too many bugs for a little kid). H will be on business, so I'd better get her used to a sitter at least during some part of the day.
HS-- I am a SAHM (don't use daycare).
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Betty, do you have any friends who are teachers? Even though we're both very into the internet and such (ie, he's not all 'wuts this newfangled tubes?' like some Hs are) H was really hesitant about leaving Joaquin with a random off sittercity. But, we have a bunch of teacher friends who know trustworthy kids, see the babysitting fliers, etc. and made recommendations to us.
Though IMO it's kind of stupid, since most sitting sites do legit background checks and stuff so the people there are far more vetted than the random teenagers. Meh.