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Breadwinner poll
in BNOTB
I'm curious after listening to this story.
http://www.npr.org/2012/03/18/148677267/the-battle-of-the-sexes-when-women-out-earn-men?ft=1&f=1033
Who earns more--you or your H?
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it?
How would/do you feel about it?
Re: Breadwinner poll
Who earns more--you or your H? My H
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? He'd be fine with it. We talk about how he can lead a life of leisure when I have a bestseller or two under my belt.
How would/do you feel about it? I'd be good with it. We consider it all "our" money.My blog: The Lizard Chronicles
Check out What's on Liz's Head
Who earns more--you or your H? I do
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? It pisses him off, but not because I make more. He actually brings in more money per year, but it all goes to his business/workers with not as much left for him. So it annoys him that we should be making the same amount, and therefore be better off financially.
How would/do you feel about it? I don't care either way. It's all "our money" anyway. And like lizard, I tell H that when I'm a best-seller he can go off and do whatever job he wants as long as we can pay the bills. He'd go back to marine science in a heartbeat, I'm sure.If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? He'd be fine with it and has in the past when I've made more.
How would/do you feel about it? I'm fine with it. It's "our" money, so it doesn't make much difference.
Who earns more--you or your H? I did a few years ago, but now S does.
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? Doesn't matter to us either way.
How would/do you feel about it? See above.
Who earns more--you or your H? - H
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? - I don't think he would care, he's not really the macho must take care of woman kind
How would/do you feel about it? - well more money would be great, so I wouldn't have any problems with it! It's both of our money, so it doesn't matter who's account it goes into first.
Who earns more--you or your H? Currently I do.
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? He hates it. Before we got laid off, he was making significantly more than I. Now, we're actually on the same payscale, but my boss got me a bit higher pay. In total, it comes close to evening out.
How would/do you feel about it? It bothers me that he hates it. But I think eventually, he will pass me up.
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? I don't think he would be upset, but rather proud and happy!
How would/do you feel about it? **shrugs** it would be great! More money is more money, no matter where it comes from or who it's for.
Who earns more--you or your H? H does.
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? He would be proud! He would love to be a SAHH!
How would/do you feel about it? I think it would be awesome! I would love it! More household income is beneficial for both of us.If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? I think it would bother him.
How would/do you feel about it? I'm good with it, but it makes me want to quit my job sometimes! We need my job because the benefits are stellar, so that makes me feel like I'm contributing more.Who earns more-you or your H? I earn more but not by much.
If you earned/earn more than you H, how would/does your H feel about it? He is completely fine with him. I always tell him that I love that I married a feminist because he is pretty much awesome.
How would/do you feel about it? I'm fine with it. I expect it as I have a higher level of education than my husband. I'd probably be pissed if I wasn't making more money.
-- Thoughts become things, choose the good ones! --
Who earns more--you or your H? MH
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? He wouldn't care.
How would/do you feel about it? I think it would bother me a little bit. I know it's ridiculous but I sort of like that L makes more than me. We share everything though so I'd just be happy to have the extra cash-flow!currently I earn more. He used to when he had his other job (that he lost cause they were idiots).
It's "our" money, so it doesn't bother me and he doesn't act like it bothers him either. I would love for him to make more than me one day, so if we are able to have kids (or adopt) that I could cut back to part-time.
That's more info than you wanted, huh?
Me:32 DH:33
Married Sept 2008
~~TTC Nov 2010~~
Jan 2012 - SA, low numbers and also low T
Mar 2013 - see first Uro - recommends seeing RE
May 2012 - see RE who recommends a new Uro who specializes in MFI
May 2012 - HSG: tubes clear
DH Surgery: 8/30/12- Bi-lateral Varicocele repair
Wait
IUI#1:12/19/12-100mg Clomid(CD3-7)(7M post wash)+ progesterone= BFN
SA:1/11/12- 38%motility, 2% morph
IUI #2: 1/21/13-100mg Clomid(CD3-7)(8M post wash) + progesterone= BFP!! EDD 10/13/13
Beta #1=81.1 Beta #2=134.5 Beta #3=58.1 #4=2369 WTH?!-Not sure if its viable
2/21/13 - Went to RE expecting the worse and saw the flutter of the heart...still measuring small. To God be the Glory!!
2/28/13 - heart rate = 147bpm!! Measuring on target!
3/21 - First OB Appt
~~PAIF/SAIF Welcome~~
Who earns more--you or your H? I do.
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? He's fine with it.
How would/do you feel about it? I'm fine with it too.
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I had the hardest time ever answering this poll. I've made more than M for the majority of the time I've known him and it's never been a big deal. The only time anything negative comes up is when I start to get a little resentful over him still being in school. Sometimes I get this thing where it's like I went college right after high school, I finished in 4 years, I started my career over six years ago, so on and so forth...It's like I busted my ass, I still bust my ass, but any benefit goes straight to his tuition and books and art supplies and etc etc etc.
I know the resentment isn't right and it doesn't surface often at all, but sometimes I can be a little petty.
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
Who earns more--you or your H? My H
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? I dont think he'd care.
How would/do you feel about it? It would be awesome but it wouldnt make a difference to me.I can relate to this. Once we get married any debt that we each incurred on our own before marriage, we'll pay off ourselves. Example: I'll take care of my car payments. (His truck is already paid off.) I'll take care of my student loans. He'll take care of his. I know in marriage "what's yours is mine is ours" but we can't exactly split our educations if [worst case scenario] we divorced.
H currently earns more.
I earned more when we got married.
It's always all our money and controlled by me. Muah ha ha!
@Sapphire, we had much the same thing going on. We have the house debt together, but we each have our own education debts, and I have my car loan debt. When he goes to buy a new car, it will become our debt.
I'm sure when we get a new car (which won't be for another few years), it will be our debt.
Does that work well for y'all?
Who earns more--you or your H? I used to make more. Now my H does and he'll probably continue to make more than me after I find a job here.
If you earned/earn more than your H, how would/does your H feel about it? He doesn't care. We see it as "our" money and always welcome more money.
How would/do you feel about it? It's "our" money so I'm indifferent either way.
J makes more.
It wouldn't bother him if I made more (if we were married and sharing income). He would love to be a SAHD eventually. No joke.
I would be fine making more, but I'm honestly not that career driven. I love my job, but I don't want any more responsibility than I currently have, so I don't foresee many raises in my future.