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I know you ladies will appreciate this
My MIL has a raging case of grandbaby rabies. So much so that whenever I mention going to the doctor, she asks me if I'm pregnant. My own mother isn't this bad. Well, my BIL got married over the weekend and she's already starting in on my new SIL. The thing with her is that you can tell her something flat out like, "We're probably not having kids," and she'll just brush it off because it's not what she wants to hear.
Since my SIL may not be able to have kids at all, it's like a knife to the heart every time she asks or mentions it. And my MIL mentions it with every.other.breath. MH is just a stepkid so we don't get the brunt of it. I feel bad for both of them and I'm ready to tell MIL to back the eff off.
*sigh* She was so good for so long.
Re: I know you ladies will appreciate this
That is frustrating, I can only imagine how SIL must be cringing everytime it comes up. I'd feel bad for her, too.
I am SO lucky we don't have that issue, even though MIL doesn't have any grandchildren. She could easily lay it on thick to me, but they gave up hope and don't even bring it up anymore. I hope for your sake (and the rest of the family) that she eventually drops it as well and gets over it.
Does MIL know that SIL might not be able to have kids? If she does, how inconsiderate! If she doesn't know, I think she needs to be told ASAP.
I almost feel guilty that I have no interest in having children when there are so many couples out there who want their own children so badly, but cannot for whatever reason.
I'm not sure, actually. But I don't think it would matter one way or the other if she knew. She's just so ... determined. And she doesn't seem to think that dogs are acceptable substitutes.
Yikes! I hope for your SIL's sake that they are able to have kids. Or if she can't that she has the guts to knock some sense into MIL. That's hurtful!
My MIL does this with everything and it's very frustrating to hear the repetition. Fortunately, she hasn't started in with the kid topic yet, but I'm sure it will start happening soon enough.
Sorry you have to deal with that. And I feel terrible for your SIL also. Hopefully your MIL will eventually get the point and back off a bit.
From what I have seen from couples who are without children (including myself) there seems to be the theme, "in time".
Something about years passing that they seem to lay off of it. Sadly, there are people like your SIL that might need to sit her down and talk to your MIL about her issues. If she does not, it may be explosive and that is something to avoid.
Me:32 DH:33
Married Sept 2008
~~TTC Nov 2010~~
Jan 2012 - SA, low numbers and also low T
Mar 2013 - see first Uro - recommends seeing RE
May 2012 - see RE who recommends a new Uro who specializes in MFI
May 2012 - HSG: tubes clear
DH Surgery: 8/30/12- Bi-lateral Varicocele repair
Wait
IUI#1:12/19/12-100mg Clomid(CD3-7)(7M post wash)+ progesterone= BFN
SA:1/11/12- 38%motility, 2% morph
IUI #2: 1/21/13-100mg Clomid(CD3-7)(8M post wash) + progesterone= BFP!! EDD 10/13/13
Beta #1=81.1 Beta #2=134.5 Beta #3=58.1 #4=2369 WTH?!-Not sure if its viable
2/21/13 - Went to RE expecting the worse and saw the flutter of the heart...still measuring small. To God be the Glory!!
2/28/13 - heart rate = 147bpm!! Measuring on target!
3/21 - First OB Appt
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