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I don't have kids and all my friends are new mommies
My husband and I don't have kids and don't want any for several more years. All of my friends are new moms and I have done everything I can to be supportive. It's been a couple of years since they've starting having babies and I think I've just reached my limit. I understand that their lives will never be the same and that they have changed as people but I'm getting very frustrated never having anything to contribute to any of our conversations. I love their kids and I love hearing about them but is there any polite way to ask them to just drop it for a little while? I want to hear about their jobs or their husbands or recipes. Anything resembling adult talk. Am I being unreasonable? Is there anything I can do?
Re: I don't have kids and all my friends are new mommies
Find a few new friends to do kid-free stuff with. That doesn't mean get rid of your old friends, but maybe don't hang out with them quite as much until you have kids, too. Maybe that sounds harsh, but if you force yourself to be around friends whose lives revolve around kids and you don't enjoy hearing about it nonstop, that's not really going to be enjoyable for you. The thing that sucks is that babies require the most involvement and attention, so people go from carefree to utterly absorbed by parenthood in the blink of an eye. You are going to feel some relative distance between yourself and your mom friends for the first year or two. By some distance, I mean some of them will drop off the face of the earth for awhile. But if you accept that and realize it will get better, you can prevent yourself from feeling hurt or angry.
Moms of five year olds are way better than moms of babies. Moms of ten year olds are better than moms of five year olds. And so on. As the kids get older, their moms have more time to read news on their phone at the park, or get more involved at work, or have something resembling a private life with their husbands, and therefore, they will have more to talk about.
Since signing things is en vogue today...
- A childless divorcee who has watched her friends reproduce in various waves and experienced everything you're feeling
"As of page 2 this might be the most boring argument ever. It's making me long for Rape Day." - Mouse
So ask them questions about their jobs and their husbands and recipes. They're probably starved for adult conversation, too.
I'm struggling with this now. I really don't want to be that mom who has nothing to talk about other than her kid. But when all of your time is spent with a baby, you quickly run out of interesting things to talk about.
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