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Could you do it?
I'm watching a tv show on Netflix called "Prison Wives". Here's the situation:
Your spouse is in prison, convicted of murder. They are in prison for life, no parole. Appeals have not been granted. Your spouse being in prison is costing you money in legal fees, commissary, traveling to see them, phone calls, and supporting yourself. You are struggling and living paycheck to paycheck, just one month short of losing your home or not making it financially.
Would you stay with your spouse? Don't say "well, my current job would allow..." or whatever. Assume you have a low paying job, as most of these women have. Also, no "my husband would never".
Re: Could you do it?
For me it would depend on whether or not I thought he did it. I would not stay with a murderer through all that.
I doubt it. Given that particular situation, I would be gone like Donkey Kong.
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I would stay married to him, but he would also be fully aware of the situation.
If I can't afford to go see him, he can go without seeing me.
It boils down to the bills come first and he'll have to live without whatever it is that he's costing me.
Legal fees don't come before housing.
ETA: This is assuming my opinion on the murder was false or justified.
yes, this.
It really depends on if he actually did murder someone or not.
Him being in prison, yes I could deal with and live with... the actual crime committed and whether he was guilty of it plays a bigger role about whether I stay in the marriage or not.
Same here. I couldn't stay married to someone I believed killed another person.
Depends if he's guilty or not.
If he was innocent I'd fight tooth and nail.
Guilty - - that's a different story, but I don't know if I'd totally give up on him. I'd like to think I'd still visit and care about him.
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Assuming that they are guilty..
It would depend on if the person deserved it, in my opinion.
If he killed a rapist? Pedophile? Animal abuser? I'd stay with him forever.
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It depends on the situation, like PPs have said.
If he murdered someone in cold blood and I knew without a doubt he was guilty, then I'd divorce him.
If I didn't think he did it and the charges were wrong/false, then I'd fight to prove his innocence.
If he, say, murdered someone who was raping a child or someone who was trying to kill me, then I'd stay with him.
Murder is a dealbreaker.
Same as most posters...If I thought he was innocent and wrongly imprisoned, I'd fight to my last cent to get him out.
If he killed someone in self defense or the defense of another, I'd stay with him also, but they usually don't give life imprisonment with no parole for a situation like that.
If he just snapped and killed someone, I'd most likely be outta there before the trial even started. Crazy is crazy. I'd probably keep tabs on him and visit him sometimes out of nostalgia or hope, but I honestly don't think I'd be able to look at him and still see the man I fell in love with and married. He'd be someone else at that point.