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I felt convicted to share my thoughts on today.
Take this however you please.
I think Erin's intention with her very first response to Figgs was to warn her that this isn't exactly "that kind of board" and she shouldn't expect much response because we don't discuss that stuff much here unless it's a long time regular poster. I think this is backed up by the fact that she followed it with our traditional board questionnaire. And Erin is genuinely nice. Period.
However, I could see where Figgs might take this the wrong way without knowing our vibe.
I also agree with Sessions that the lingo used in Figgs's siggy was rough for us non-bumpies to figure out, which is a turn off. Her adjustment now is much easier to swallow.
I didn't read every post by every person today. But, part of me is disappointed in some of you for taking it to such a personal level. I understand that most of us aren't interested in discussing children. She didn't come here for that. And regardless of this being a simple Internet forum, people are still hurt by what is said here sometimes. While unimportant to some of us, the thought of never being able to have your own children is devastating to some people. Do the stillborn references in her siggy make me uncomfortable? Yes, but it doesn't mean I should attack her.
I won't address CJ - except to say betch was actin a fool today.
This board used to be about fun, grown ass women talking about grown ass woman shet with lots of fun sass. We can be fun and funny and sassy without hurting others that aren't like us.
::steps off soap box::
Re: I felt convicted to share my thoughts on today.
I want to hug you.
I like this (usually) drama-free board.
It really was a lot of misunderstanding at first. I think it's time to be done with this all, really.
The ladies I know on this board are not hateful creatures. I enjoy a b!tchy moment as much as the next woman, but I think it's time this all be done.
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Except that Figgs' intro made no mention of "that kind of stuff" and in no way was soliciting a response to the information in her siggy.
Figgs' siggy was/is very representative of siggy's found on the bump where people post without expecting or needing people to comment on their siggy info. She stated that she was most familiar with the bump and the knot and therefore I do not believe that she came her expecting people to be all "ZOMG, SO sorry for your loss!!" People here jumped to the conclusion that by posting this info in her siggy she had a need or expectation for posters to address her losses. Nothing Figgs actually wrote herself suggested this.
Instead of ignoring the info that made them uncomfortable, certain posters chose to viciously attack a woman who just suffered heartbreaking losses. That is disgusting.
ETA: OP, I am in no way trying to start an argument with you nor am I attacking your post - just pointing out what doesn't make sense to me.
Right, but it does seem like you pulled quotes like a bad reality show. I clearly addressed both perspectives, did I not?
I disagree. I think we are making different points.
Right, soooo, where am I one-sided?
I don't think that you are being one sided. On the contrary, I think you made an effort to defend Figgs' point of view.
The part I disagree with is defending Erin's statements by stating that she was trying to warn Figgs that "that kind of stuff" isn't discussed here. There was no need to warn her because she wasn't attempting to discuss her losses. Her losses were in her siggy because that is what is typical on the bump where she regularly posts. That's all.
Even if Erin was "trying to warn her" the way in which she went about it is indefensible.
Understood.
I have stayed out of this from the beginning and went about my own business as usual. But, the vicious attacks are not one sided. You have to admit that some pretty mean and hateful things have been said by people on BOTH sides. The posts that are meant to be supportive of Fig but attack BNOTBers only serve to stir the pot and perpetuate this- including continued comments in response to a post meant to calm all this down.
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Hell yes.
Convoy! That movie rules. That is all.
I was going to post that I agree with you, and I stayed away today because I thought there was a lot of misunderstanding and, to use NFL terms here, unnecessary roughness on ALL of our parts..... Which says a lot because the kumbaya nature of the board is at times irritating to me.... But today was ridiculous and not something I like to see among posters I've grown to know and care for...I feel like we are better women than what was displayed today.
I did not like the nastiness being spread here by lurkers, BNOTB-ers and those "old regulars" who only seem to show up when there is BR drama and use it an excuse to trash the board and seek out personal vendettas when they get bored by their own Google board.....
I was going to mention that today was not a fine moment for BNOTB and our members (IMO) and that it clearly did not reflect the board's general vibe- all someone has to do is seek out the last ten pages to see that most regular posters here are great and the vibe is relaxed and accepting and honest.....
so yeah. I was going to say all of that and then I noticed that Twilight was on....... so....... Yeah..... Edward.
Agreed on all parts, except the Twilight thing. I just can't get behind those movies. The books weren't awful, though.
Oh betch, of course the movies are awful. But you know you secretly want Edward to ram you- I mean, bite you,
Nah, I'm more of a wolf girl than a pasty emo-kid girl. You should see how hairy MH is. I think he's part wolf, actually.
This is the first time I've laughed today while looking at the board.
Always glad to be of service, love.
If I am a b!tch because 90% of this boards users are then fine, I will take that. There is nothing good about this board anymore. It used to be a place where people could vent and say what they will and not be put down. Now it is a high school click where if you arent a crazy drunk you dont fit in... Well news flash.. If you can call a horse a horse so can I.
I just said what everyone else was thinking... If we can be brutally honest here because you guys are so cool, then here you go.
You arent the first to call me a beech and you wont be the last. No one should EVER put up with verbal abuse from anyone.
Right, and if you?ll read my post, I stated that I was disappointed in some of the regular board posters? reactions. Where you and I differ is the manner in which we stated this opinion. And, really, I shouldn't have called you (or anyone) that name.
Right, and if you?ll read my post, I stated that I was disappointed in some of the regular board posters? reactions. Where you and I differ is the manner in which we stated this opinion. And, really, I shouldn't have called you (or anyone) that name.