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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
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:-/
I have to break up with the first bf I've had since my divorce. He's a really nice guy but lifestyles and certain key beliefs don't match up. I'm super nervous about it because I know he's going to be completely blindsided. I won't be able to see him until Sunday so until then I'm going to be worried about it. I think this is harder for me than leaving exh because this guy is actually nice. How do you end things with a nice guy?
Rain rain go away so I can go outside and play!
Re: :-/
Yup...I second that (clearly, since I had to recently do it)
Tell him the truth, do it sooner rather than later. Drink a glass of wine beforehand and perhaps a glass or two afterwards.
It's not easy, but if it's for the right reasons, then it's for the best and you'll be glad you did.
I broke things off with a nice guy. And it was amicable.
But the sex was really good, so we kept benefits privileges. Then I broke that off, and he went batsh?t crazy!
Lessons learned:
- Go for a clean break; no benefits no matter how good the sex is.
- Sometimes the nice guys aren't always so nice.
Just recently went through a "break-up" (if you consider not contacting me back and dealing with things when given an easy out) with my first "BF" since my divorce. So while I didn't have to do any face to face stuff, I had to face the fact that even though I care for him and he is a life long family friend - he just isn't right for me and DD. I also realized even though it ended kind of crappy-ish, that it was harder than leaving my XH. So sorry you are going through this.
Anyway, my dad has always told me not to think too hard about what you are going to say going into things - "the words will come."