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Need some depressing advice (putting pet down when there is another)
I was here in November/December asking quite a few questions about my gal Debbie. It's been a long road, but she was officially diagnosed with Leukemia a few weeks ago. She remains asymptomatic, but it is only a matter of time. The vets estimate 1-3 months (we are going on week 3, so it could be very very soon).
Anyway, we are beginning to talk about the hard decisions that are coming up. We have a couple of choices. We can have the vet come here or we can go there. We haven't decided if we should do it here or there. But, we are trying to figure out if we should bring Cindy (her sister) when it happens.
We don't know if it would make it easier on her, or if it won't matter.
Does anyone have any experience with this?
We'll miss you sweet Debbie Girl (4.21.12) and sweet Cindy Girl (8.9.12)
Re: Need some depressing advice (putting pet down when there is another)
I don't have any experince with it and hopefully someone can chime in. I am so sorry you are having to make this decision and go through this.
I think it depends on the dog honestly. I think it is just a personal decision and if you want her passing to be with just you guys. I am not in/or have been the situation though so I don't have better advice.
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I'm so sorry that you're in the position where you ever need to make these kinds of tough decisions.
Having the vet come out to your house is a great option, I think. Not many offer that and it always seems to me like it would be lower stress for everyone.
So sorry.
I have no advice about your other dog, but I definitely think you should take your vet up on the option of coming to your house. My mother did that with our childhood dog, and I would like to do the same when the time comes for my dogs. The vet isn't always a happy place for animals, and it was comforting to know Rusty passed in his own yard where he was comfortable.
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I've been following your Debbie updates on D&R and I just want to say I'm so sorry you're going through this.
I personally like the idea of a vet coming to the house. I think the house is an environment that is comforting to both you and the dog and it might make it less stressful overall. I'm sure you will be reminded of where it happened, but you will also be reminded of Debbie's favorite place to rest, her favorite window to look out, etc every time you look around your house. My point is, don't not do it because it might hurt after, do what's best for all involved at that time.
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I don't have experience with doing it at home OR bringing a pet (I have cats, and packing up all 3 of our cats when we needed to bring Nimbus in to be PTS would have been more stressful for me), but I would probably rather do it at home if I wanted the other pets to be there. Also, if you will be claiming your dog and burying her on your own, your home will already be the most convenient place, along with allowing her to remain calm and not stressing everyone out more. If you are choosing cremation (you usually have the option of individual, where they return the ashes, or group, where they don't), then going to the vet might be easier.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
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SO sorry to hear the news...putting our family dog down a few years back was THEE hardest thing ever!
I think it would be great to have the vet come to you...its such an emotional event and it'd be nice to be in a place where your dog is comfortable and can stay as relaxed as possible as well as everyone in your family!
No experience personally with another pet but I know I had a teacher who had 3 dogs and she was telling us how completely lost the younger 2 were after the passing of the oldest...I'm sure it will be hard on your other dog either way but including her could be helpful in realizing what is happening..?
Thinking of you and your family during your hard time!
I am very sorry to hear about this, it's never an easy decision to make.
I would also, as many other have said, personally prefer the vet coming to my home. I wish we had that option when we put down our family pet a few years ago.
We had a similar situation, it wasn't a sister/sister bond however, it was a mate bond. We had to put down our 14 yr old female Malimute (spelling?), we also had her mate, he was just a couple years younger. We didn't even think it would have been an option either to bring him to say "goodbye" he just saw her get in the truck and she never came back. And from that experiance I have to say he got very depressed after that, very withdrawn from our family. We tried very hard to get him up and going, trying to play with him (he had still had his "puppy" attitude even though he was 10), but he just got so depressed. It was only a year after we put down his mate that my dad was trying to get him in our gated back yard and he turned and growled and bit my dad. He's never been an aggressive dog before, but through that year he started to become "angry" i guess you could say. He didn't draw blood, but just the fact that he did that, we knew we couldn't keep him around since we had my 5 year old niece living there, what if he did the same thing to her, just got upset one day? So we had to put him down too.
I'm not saying this happens all the time, you have 2 females, my dog was a male. Nobody else seemed to have any other advise on this subject I realy wanted to give you my experience.
What does your vet say about it? What does your gut say about it? do what feels right to you and your family.