Trouble in Paradise
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my husband and i are probably gettuing divorced :(
i am so sad to say that we are probably getting a divorce. we have been married 7 years. we tried marriage counseling. that was more of a bandage for us. we have 2 small kids. we just do not get along.
i dont want to give up. but my husband doesnt want to try anymore. so, if he has given up, i dont want to see him anymore. he says he wants a divorce. but then he seems unshore of the divorce. it just isnt fair to me to see him every day. it is like torture. all i want to do is fix this and be in love.
my husband doesnt want to put in the effort to make it better. how can he give up on us?
Re: my husband and i are probably gettuing divorced :(
I am so sorry for your pain.
Getting divorced is hard. I am going through it now and I don't have a lot of wisdom. I guess what I will say is that I tried for a long time with my H and it is still ending. My greatest regret and frustration is that I wasted so many years trying to make it work when in retrospect I should have let it end a long time ago.
So if he is saying he is done, let it be done. I know it isn't as easy as that! But if only one person is really trying, that is difficult and in the end, it won't be enough.
Considering the tone of your previous posts, this was a long time coming.
Maybe instead of swimming against the current of a bad marriage, you cut your losses and focus on yourself and your children.
Good luck.
(a) you can't fix another person. You can't make them love you
(b) he's doing you a favor, you just can't see that yet
And let me remind you of where you were in November.
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60196745.aspx
If he has cashed out then its time to move on. The faster you realize its over, the easier it is to move on. Not that its easy in any way. You cannot make him change.
Surround yourself with friends and family. Get your finances in order and start separating your belongings.
I dont know why he is giving up. But dwelling on that is only going to exhaust you and it isnt helpful in your healing.