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Well...
Still getting screwed about by car dealerships. My co worker has offered to lend her us van for a few months and to also buy it for $300 if we want to. We are going to borrow it for now and just how it goes for a few weeks and then probably buy it. Right now it's transportation - that's what I need. 
I am not going to be picky or anything at this point. Hubby wants to talk tonight whether it's advantageous to buy the van and run it to it's dead or to buy a more reliable car. He said if we go with a car payment - we will be eating stuff like ramemen noodles, rice & beans, sandwiches, etc. for quite some time. If we are going to be like that, that is pathetic.
I have a gripe. Hubby just got a promotion from work and a raise. He is always spending on his money on getting pizza from Pizza Hut, etc. Yet he is complaining that I don't know how to budget my money (though I stick to a strict budget) and he is blowing his money on all that crap. And a year ago he had no problem making a car payment. He's like I am not going to make a car payment and not be able to see my girls. If you need and want to see your kids, you will make it happen. And he's the one that needs to go on a budget. Sorry for B!tching, but I have been trying to stand up to him and I am trying to find the solid ground here to make my points and not be bullied.
Any idea or suggestions are welcomed. Thanks for listening.
Atleast I've got some wheels for now.
Re: Well...
I don't understand the bolded parts.
1) Are you saying that this new car you're trying to get will put your finances in a position that he can't afford child support?
2) Why do you need to stand up to him? A marriage should not involve bullying.
You guys should be budgeting together, not his and hers budgets, but one family budget. Do you have separate accounts?
I suggest you make a written budget. Things like housing, groceries, child support, etc. come first. Then all other bills. THEN "fun money" (like pizza). Find a spreadsheet, or do it by hand.
1. No he pays child support but he thinks having a car payment again will be too much and he won't be able to see the kids. This is not true.
2. He says that we need to talk about all of this, but whenever I bring up my opinions about stuff that matters, he doesn't listen or he'll bully his way of thinking to make everything what he wants it to be.
I agree with PSU's questions...
And I have a couple as well...you guys were working with the dealership about financing the vehicle, correct? Did you not come to an agreement as to what you guys could afford before going to the dealership?
As for standing up to him, perhaps sitting down and have a conversation about how you do not feel like you guys are on the same page with this car buying business, and that these are your thoughts on it. There should be no nagging, bullying, or bamboozling from either side.
I am sorry to hear that this situation is not getting any better and at least now you have transportation, even if it is a temporary solution.
I guess I'm not following how having a car payment = not seeing his kids.
And if that's his MO for working through situations (meaning, the bullying), then you have bigger problems than buying a car.
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