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Since it is slow... analyze my co-worker
There is a guy where I work... no one is sure how to take him.
He's single. Lives alone. He sounds like Jack from Will and Grace. Has all female friends. He says that he likes having all female friends and doesn't like to hang out with other men. He doesn't really date. People in his circle set him up occasionally, but it always ends with the first date and doesn't go past there.
He was talking to a few female co-workers (they were talking right beside my desk, so I could hear everything very clearly). They were discussing male/female friendships and how it works/doesn't work when one or both of the friends gets married or has a serious SO. The guy spoke up with "oh, I've never found it to be a problem. Their husbands don't mind if they go out to dinner or shopping with me. I guess they just trust their wives and me." The one female co-worker said "well, yeah. Its kinda obvious why they trust their wives to hang with you."
He looked at her all weird and said "do you think I'm gay?" The girls mouths dropped open and they tried to cover and were all "no, of course not". In the mean time you could see the OMGWTFEWCMBBQ all over their faces.
So, this was a few weeks ago. Just recently, the guy was talking to one of the co-workers and he asked if he could come to her MaryKay party. Um... ok, sure. The conversation continued for awhile and then he made a comment that has everyone in the office confused.
He said that he's a "Ken doll". Does that mean that thinks he's fasionable... no, that can't be it. He's not. He has a girlfriend named Barbie... no. No girlfriend. He has wavy brown plastic hair... nope, he's bald. He's flat in the pants... hmmm... was that his first step to busting out of the closet?
Confusion.
Re: Since it is slow... analyze my co-worker
WTF is a Ken Doll?!!! Who says that?! Is he neuter? That is borderline creepy-- no, I'll say it. Its CREEPY that he would say something like that. I am going to go google furiously to see WTF that means.
This is what I'm thinking.
I forgot part of his background... his parents are traditional mennonite (farmers, bonnets, floral dresses, etc). He lives in Amish country, close to his parents. He is not mennonite.
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Well, he may not be fashionable, but he may THINK he is....
But trying to channel that and how it came out of a MaryKay party discussion - (I'm thinking way too much about a damn doll now too) - I take it that he perceives himself to be somewhat fashionable/ perhaps "metro sexual", then linked into the fact that he likes having female friends, he likes to go to parties like this to keep in tune to what women like/ talk about.
If we want to go much deeper, though, I'd say that he's possibly kind of on the asexual part of the spectrum and while he may "seem" gay, he really, truly doesn't identify that way because he isn't attracted to men. But he hasn't perhaps fully realized he isn't attracted to women either...
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As for his Ken Doll comment, if I was in the conversation, I would have just asked what he ment.
The Ken doll thing is the weirdest part. I wasn't actually in the conversation, just overhearing from a distance. Then the one girl came over and relayed everything. Its our slow time right now... we're all a little loopy.
When he said it, everyone just did that awkward laugh that happens when someone says a joke but no one gets it, but pretends to. The conversation kept going and no one ever asked, so know they think it's too awkward to bring back up. Especially since we're at work.
There will be copious amounts of alcohol at the party, everyone there is friends, and it's not on work property/work hours so someone at the party is supposed to ask the guy WTF he meant by "he's a Ken doll". I was invited, but I declined... now I'm a little sad about that. But it's on a week night and her house is about an hour and a half away from my house, so no thanks.
Side note: He definitely doesn't think he's fashionable or metrosexual-ish. He's a proud Sears shopper. Must be the Mennonite up-bringing.
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