Starting Over
People are placed in and taken out of our lives for a multitude of reasons. My faith has me looking upward so I might stay on my path, forward to reach my future and to either side for the ones to walk near me on my journey.
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FFFC
Was in the ER Wednesday and have a dr appt in about an hour bc I might be having a m/c and as sad as I am about maybe losing my baby, I'm glad to know that I can get pg. I would prefer to have a husband to have a family with and even though I know I can do it alone, it's not a desirable situation.
I'll update on Monday.
People are placed in and taken out of our lives for a multitude of reasons. My faith has me looking upward so I might stay on my path, forward to reach my future and to either side for the ones to walk near me on my journey.
Re: FFFC
((hugs)) Hope you're okay.
The BF gave himself a "race" haircut and I hate it.
He says this is how he is going to cut his hair before every race from here on out. I am generally not a superficial person, but he has such gorgeous thick hair and he shaved it all off.
The flame-free part is the fact that I didn't tell him what I really thought about it.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Oh no, I'm so sorry.. I hope you're okay!!
My FFFC.. is a man asked me out to lunch yesterday.. but I work with him and he's MARRIED! He was trying to play it off like it was work related..but we don't work together on anything..so yeeeaaah mmkay. I said thx but no thx. WTF? And my therapist wonders why the hell I have such deep trust issues!!! Cuz all the men I've encountered are married and CHEAT! F*ck love and men... I'm bitter today.
FFFC - I was such a little hoho this week. We went to a restaurant in houston and the sommelier was adoooooorable ... so I pulled him into the bathroom and got into those pants. Ah-mazing.
I'm rowing in your boat Audg! Good for you for saying NO!
Go for it! Especially if the email convos are good and maybe you'll gain a friend out of it.
nyg&p - ::HUGS:: I'm sorry you're going through this right now.
My FFCs?
I'm supposed to be attending the beginning of a lobbying weekend tonight (opening reception and film screening) as more of a networking event (because I still freaking need a job!), but I'm really not feeling it. Especially since I'll be there ALL weekend, and because the organizers failed to send me any additional information once I signed up. They told me I'd be receiving a packet of information, but here it is the first day of the conference, and I've rec'd nothing. The only reason I know that there might be a reception tonight is that they have a *draft* agenda up on their site. Being an organizer for so long is causing me to give this group a major side eye. It's really NOT that hard to pull together a conference.
A friend / former work colleague asked me to go with her to the impound lot when her car was impounded to get a "small bag of stuff" out. That small bag was actually an entire backseat's worth of stuff - my backseat. And we did this on Jan 17th. The crap is STILL in my car because she keeps flaking on having me drop it off on her place. I am *this* close to tossing it in a dumpster and telling her my car was broken into.
I know I should be taking things slow with D, but I'm finding myself a little sad and whiny that I'm not going to get to see him all weekend because of this "stupid" conference.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
I'm so sorry to hear about this. My friend sent me a message last night that she was 7 weeks pregnant with twins. She went last week and one had passed while the other measured small. This week she learned the other had passed too and will have a DNC. She sounded in good spirits and decided with her bf that they will try after the 3 months of mandatory non-ttc period to try for another.
My FFFC - due to distance J and I have been sending pictures / emails that are quite explicit to the point of sending each other video clips. He sent me one the other day and as much as I was turned on by it, the first thing that popped in to my mind was "wow, he'd make a great candidate to TTC with"
Thus far, the conversations are good...and flow pretty easy, so I'm not totally against meeting!
nyg&p--((big hugs))
Audg--who is it? i can give him a black mark in my lawyer database at work :P
kipper--go girl! you crack me up!
My FFFC is that I think my bosses might fire me when they get back and I don't care. They haven't checked in with me all week, won't answer my emails and haven't given me any new work. I will be so happy to move on from this job.
Meh - go for it. As a pp said, maybe you'll get a cool friend out of it.
My flameful addition to this? stbxh is a lawyer - one of the wealthy ones. For the first year we dated, he absolutely refused to let me pay for anything, as much as I protested. I'm not saying it's necessary, or even okay, for this to happen (I mean, look how that one turned out), but I can't deny that it was nice to not have to pull at my wallet on a date. And the fact that D is kind of doing the same thing definitely isn't hurting our budding romance.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Hugs and T&P's for your friend and her bf.
My XH ALWAYS paid for everything from the start....lunch, dinner, weekends away. Of course, I found out too late that he was actually charging it all on his credit card and racking up huge debt to do so. I don't mind paying for stuff or not taking vacations, so it was obviously annoying to find out too far in.
Also, along those lines. My mortgage is on the same online account as the XH's credit card statement. So everytime I log in to pay the mortgage, I can see his activity. He's charged over $14,000 since last May (when he moved out and I had paid off his cc bill) to do the same thing for his girlfriend. So everytime I go online, I look at what he's charged....I giggle quite a bit because he's digging himself quite the hole, financially!!
nyg&p - hugs to you. i hope everything's ok.
Audg -- are you certain the intentions of the lunch invitation were something other than friendly? I have a lot of different lunch "dates" with a lot of people -- and there's nothing romantic, sexual or inappropriate about them. I had lunches with men while married. I had and have lunches with married men -- colleagues, friends, acquaintances. It's never been a big deal.
Are you sure he was fishing for something more?
(and, for the record, this is not me flaming anyone. I'm genuinely curious as to what about this invitation seemed off.)
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I don't mind the questions .. they are valid points
I know he was/has been hitting on me because it's blatently obvious ... flirting, coming by my desk constantly for no apparent reason other than to stare at my t*ts/asss...we do not work on anything together..nor are we "friends". There would be no other reason for the invitation then to see how far I'd be willing to "go" with him. If we were friendly or had work in common, I wouldn't think anything of it.. but his intentions are sooo obvious to me..HE is a huge red flag. He the typical very attractive, successful man, who I'm sure is used to getting what he wants... but he's barking up the wrong tree... I'm so over this nonsense and these f*cked up men...sorry don't get me started on my bitterness again.. LOL
I have date #4 with a guy I met on Match tonight. He's totally spending the night and I'm even thinking I want to have sexy time.
Here's my question though - we did agree that we won't be on Match anymore after the last date. It was his idea but I was (and still am) totally fine with that. I don't sleep with guys I'm not exclusive with. I just don't know if agreeing to get off Match = exclusive. Obviously I will ask him but wanted to hear what you ladies think in the meantime.
Oof, yeah. He sounds like a creep. I'm sorry; that sucks.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
My FFFC....my body temp started rising when I read about Kipper's bathroom assault on that sommelier. Holy moses girl...that is something right out of a porn.
Also I had to google just what in the hell a sommelier even was, apparently I dont drink enough wine.
The guys in my office keep inventing new ways to go over and ask the new temp questions about meaningless crap. I get that she is freakin gorgeous..but she is also engaged...you have no chance!!
Are they MARRIED too? Geeeesus... LOL
((hugs))
I was three things this morning and forgot to double check the latch on one of my stair gates. I heard a click and assumed it was shut. DD on the couch watching tv. I got to the laundry room and heard her saying: "Step, step" which is what she says when going down the steps...
I bolted out of the laundry room just in time to cath her as she started tumbling. She was fine, but I was shaken.
It has thrown off my whole day. I keep thinking about how I feel guilty for not giving her my whole attention, for missing that the gate was not properly shut, but if I don't mutli task then nothing would ever get done... I had such a good flow going as a single mom and now I am doubting things.
My mom told me to relax and that these things happen and that I was obviously being paying attention cause I caught her before she could topple all the way down. I know you can't hover over kids... sorry I am rambling, like I said it has throw me off today.
((((Hugs)))) I hope things work out okay.
My FFFC is that I came off of hormonal birth control because it was driving me completely crazy and I had terrible physical symptoms. My intention was to read that one fertility book everyone talks about and start charting seriously while also using backup methods. I am a complete charting drop out, I don't temp, I didn't read the whole book, and I haven't been super great about back up methods. F knows all of this, so at least I'm not keeping it a secret. I'm usually really good at these types of things but for whatever reason I have not taken it seriously when I really should be.
I'm sorry nyp&p. Hugs.
My FFFC
There is a guy that I know from the bar I like to go to. At first I had a huge crush on him and was trying to be a good girl and go about starting a relationship with him the proper way (i.e. not sleeping with him). Then I found out a few things about him that made me realize he isn't the type of guy I want a relationship with. He's still really fun to flirt with and I'm hoping that after day drinking and the KU game -- we can go back to his house and celebrate...
D is supposed to have the girls tonight and tomorrow, but I just chatted briefly with him and he's not sure what's going on. So apparently his ex is on a rampage of nasty.
The good part of me hopes he gets the girls and is able to spend some quality time with him. The selfish part of me would love it if he could come spend the weekend with me. I miss him and he needs a break from the crazy.
Aw, sorry your job sucks MCC. **clink glasses**
I have yet another one from just now!
There's a new girl in the office that's getting all the guys attention. She's an airhead but she's thin and has great hair that's exactly like mine. And she's flirting with a guy I hooked up with many months ago.
So she brought in brownies today and I brought in cupcakes. I calmly looked around to see if anyone was looking, and then I put a hair in her pan of brownies.
Cupcakes win.
Aww thanks! And OMG you crack me up with your brownie story!
I've definitely been there lady (and have the recordings to prove it
), so ::hugs::
Look at it this way, though - she's out of town, so you do get to drink your lunch. Plus, this just adds fuel to the fire that is your desire to get the hell out of such a toxic environment right?
I know you're probably waiting to have something else lined up (and I'm definitely not one to talk), but if you're really this miserable, screw it and get out of there.
Bonus? Then you'll have time to come visit me and we can drink our lunches together.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Seriously...STOP IT!! Only just a few minutes ago did I finally stop grinning from your bathroom/sommelier story. Now this!!! I will be grinning all damn day now. My face will be sore tomorrow.