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Let's vent for a minute.
Feel free to add yours.
H, I and 4 of our friends are going to Boston next weekend. MIL was being wishy-washy about letting us use her 2010 Durango to drive everyone, so we started making back-up plans including possibly driving one of the friend's moms 1991 Land Cruiser. I talked to MIL last night and she said we could take it as long as H and I are the only ones driving. I'm like yes! Awesome! Great!
H texts friend this morning to tell him the great news, and he tells us his mom basically put a bunch of money into the Land Cruiser specifically so we could take it and that she would be super p!ssed if we didn't.
I do not want to take a car that is only 2 years younger than I am on a 10 hour road trip. I just don't. They assure me that a bunch of stuff was replaced and it should be mechanically sound. I am not convinced and I want to take the nice new vehicle- but if I push the issue I'm going to be the heartless bad guy who doesn't care that friends mom went through the effort to do stuff to her car because we might need it.
So basically we're taking a SUV that's 21 years old vs. a SUV that's 2 years old over feelings that would be hurt.
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Re: Let's vent for a minute.
Ok, I get why the friend's mom is pist. But if she can't succumb to basic reasoning, then who cares if her feelings get hurt?
My only vent is that it is only 130, and Game of Thrones doesn't come on until 9. My life is terribly hard.
I wish we knew if DH has a job here in Germany after he returns from his deployment next late Spring/early Summer. Not knowing sucks, especially given where we live. DH goes between wanting to stay for the full length of his orders (36 months) and wanting to just move back to the States. How I build my life kind of depends upon how long we're going to be here. If it's just a year, LO and I are going to travel as much as I can manage. Three years? I'd pace our travels. One year? I'll learn enough German to get by. Three years? I'd learn more to take greater advantage of where we are. One year? I'll decorate enough to make it homey enough. Three years? I'd consider painting a wall or two.
Honestly, while I'd rather be here for three years, I just want to know. DH is supposed to talk with his branch manager this week, but I'm not sure what can be done at this point, seeing that this is over a year from now. DH has not had 36 month orders in over 15 years. On Wednesday, we move into our new place. This will be house number seven for us. We've been married for less than six years. The thought of living in ONE home for three years is a dream! Especially the house we're moving into, in the town where it's located!! (A family friend from Germany said that our new town is one of the prettiest towns in Germany!). Silly me for getting my hopes up for a bit of stability (funny what I consider stable, given DH's upcoming deployment).
I am starting to sound like a broken record, but I really don't want to do homework.
And Fluck, I canceled HBO, so no GOT for me.
I'm mad because no one asked her to do any of these improvements. Friend asked if we could borrow it in the event that the Durango situation didn't work out. She got it fixed up on her own accord- and now we're being guilted into taking it even though our original plan is an available option.
In other news, I'm also pumped about GoT tonight.
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Just take the Durango. She was not asked to fix her car so just take the safer one.
Problem is if we push the issue and take the Durango, we will probably p!ss off our friend too in the process for being insensitive to his mother's feelings.
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Your friend is a douche then. Sorry.
H you have been really great while I have been laid up. However, I told you while shopping at the comissary that I needed it ot be a quick trip yet you insist on walking around the whole damn store after I tell you I am already sore and tired. Then I try to give you the money for the bagger so I can go sit in the car and you ignore me. Dude I get it you've been awesome cooking and cleaning but I am frickin sore and when I say I need to go sit down in the car while you and the bagger put the bags in the trunk listen to me gahhh.
Also don't act like your all special because you cleaned up some of the house. I do that pretty much every weekend and you never say thanks to me.
The Dogs and Us
Mary if it makes you feel any better I saw my 17 year old car that I traded in for $100 on the road this week. That car got me from CA to GA and from GA to NH with not one issue. My dad told me that as long as certain things are looked after a car can go pretty far and be reliable.
I hope that you enjoy Boston!
Have you checked out Project Free Tv to watch it?
I'm in agreement with you, and H is with me too. Unfortunately 3 of the people going live together. The other chick who is going is dating friend #1 so of course she is going to side with him, friend #2 agrees that the Durango is a better choice but will side with friend #1 since he doesn't want to start drama in their house. Friend #3 lives in NYC and doesn't really care as long as we pick him up along the way.
If it breaks down I'm going to kill someone.
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I think you'll be fine. A newly serviced vehicle should be perfectly safe. It's not worth drama to object.
Do you think they suspected the offer of the durango would be revoked given the previous reluctance, so they're going with the backup plan b/c at least they can count on it?
Mary, I hope you all can come to a reasonable solution to the car problem. Good luck!
I am flipping exhausted after spending all day yesterday on a 10 page seminar paper proposal/annotated bibliography and then all day today reading a 500 page novel for the same class. All of our other books this semester have been ~300 pages, so I didn't even check this week's page count until this morning. I'm convinced my professor hates us for assigning the longest book the same week our monster proposal is due, and hate that I had to spend all weekend on homework for only one class.
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Mary, I understand your reluctance, but it should be fine. Those things last forever. I have a friend with an 80's model LC. It has well over 200k miles on it. It's a tank and runs like a champ.
My ILs are driving me up a wall. They moved here 5 years ago because they loved the area and wanted to be closer to H and our kids. H doesn't have a great relationship with his SM, but loves his dad. His younger brother is a DB who we've had all sorts of issues with and neither of us really want to be around him. I sure the hell don't want him around my kids.
H has pretty much stopped inviting them to things because he doesn't want to deal with them. He asks his dad to go fishing or to lunch every now and then but not often because he's a busy guy and the kids come first. Over the last year, his SM has taken to FB posting passive agressive posts or just flat out bitchy statements on my FB page or updates. H flew to TX yesterday for ALC and didn't call them or visit with them before he left. He goes to that class and then jumps into a deployment. Apparently, it's all my fault and I am a huge biotch for not allowing them to spend time with him before he left. I am a terrible person and should be ashamed of my self. I am on the verge of kicking people in the face. My SIL sent me a message asking why I was being so mean to her daddy. Sorry, chick, if your brother wanted to hang out with them, he had plenty of time. BTW, the phone works both ways and they knew when he was leaving for several months.
I got a call from a person in H's family asking when we were coming back up, specifically if we were coming before his next deployment later this year. My response probably not we have other things going on. He might come up on his own but it is doubtful. And the next time we visit anyone's family it will be mine as we visited his family last. Their response "oh." Hid dad also always syas that we don't need a vacation because visiting family is vacation. uhhh sorry no it is not. Sorry your H's family are being d-bags.
The Dogs and Us
Yeah, H's sister in TX asked me why we are always able to go on vacation but haven't been there for 4 years. Well, traveling with 6 people for 18 hours is not easy. All of our vacations are with in a 5 hour drive for us. We were in TX 2 years ago. We told everyong when they could visit with us there. Some people chose to drive the 4 hours to see us, she thought we should have driven the four additional hours to see her. Sorry, chick, no. Time with his kids is far more important than time with his sister who can't even call him on his birthday. BTW, this is also the chick who told me I had no right to decide how many kids my husband has. 0_o
That was awesome of her. How many people are on the list who you have never met in your life?
There are only two email addresses that I don't recognize. And one for someone I explicitly said I did not want invited.
I'd kind of like to punch your mil in the nose right now. Right after I punch my xmil and my fmil.
Missed M/C 11/5/2010 @ 5 weeks, 3 days* D&C 12/3/2010 at 9 weeks, 3 days
I wish I could draw you a picture of the image that came to mind. It's like Fight Club, but pregnant.
This made me giggle. The list of people that are going to get punched in the nose by me is getting longer by the minute today. I think I need a vacation!
Missed M/C 11/5/2010 @ 5 weeks, 3 days* D&C 12/3/2010 at 9 weeks, 3 days
I am pretty sure I made this face
at the bolded. WTF? Is she one of those really religous people who is all you have to do what your H says because he is man of the house people? And please tell me you had an awesome comeback to this.
The Dogs and Us
No, she's 20 and just gave birth to her 3rd child.
That image would strike fear into the hearts of many