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Does the type of porn your husband watch bother you?
My husband likes porn and I'm assuming he watches it fairly often, this doesn't really bother me because we have a good sex life but it does bother me that most of the videos I have found of his are anal related. He likes big butts and anal sex and I have a big butt and we do anal so it shouldn't bother me but I just think watching it all the time is gross lol. Is that weird? I don't really get the 24/7 anal appeal!
Re: Does the type of porn your husband watch bother you?
My husband doesn't watch it but he did when he was younger. I would only have been concerned if it was violent, involved animals or people who were underage or anything illegal.
Or when lots of money is being spent on porm websites and being spent to excess, or when porn interferes with your everyday life and/or your sex life.
That's when porn becomes a problem. At that point, it's an addiction.
Yes, I completely agree with all of that. (for those who are ok with porn in their relationship) We choose not to have it in our lives so there should be no money or time being spent on it at all.
As far as I know, he's not into anything weird / illegal, so I don't mind. That's the only way I think it would be a problem though, or if there was an addiction.
He doesn't ask me what I watch, I don't ask him what he watches. We both just assume the other person sometimes watches porn, and it's not a big deal.
This.
I'm intrigued. It seems a few posters have said "I don't care what he watches, but he would be horrified if he knew what I watched" or "He is bothered by what I watch."
I guess that's interesting to me. What kinds of stuff do you think would horrify your husband(s)? Obviously only reply back if you're comfortable sharing.
I don't watch porn and it's not part of my relationship BUT I was also wondering what was so horrible about what they were watching that their husbands would be bothered.
Yes. Its nothing really scary or illegal, but its something that bothers me...I dont know what to do though! I'm in the same boat as you OP!
I wish I could say I don't care, but I saw him watching something the other day that made me unhappy. I dont want to go into the details of why, but I feel like theyre somewhat valid. Its especially hurtful because he has such a hard time reaching climax with me, when I know he has no problem at all when hes doing it himself. Ugh. So, I can see my problem here is multi-layered...but...how do you bring this topic up? I dont want to supress his interests or make him feel bad! It just sucks because I'm the one left feeling bad!
OP, I know how you feel!