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Now what do I do?
So I met that great guy (ND- new dude) and I really like him so far. We've only gone on one date though and going to schedule a 2nd one for later this week (going to try for Friday). The problem is I agreed to meet this other guy for lunch on Thursday and dude #3 is trying to schedule dinner (he suggested Saturday night, which I can't do).
Date #2 with ND might not be as great, or he could totally disappear. At this point who knows... but I really have no interest in other guys right now. WWYD? Go out with other guys? At least go out with the dude #2 bc it's already scheduled (and it's a lunch so I don't need to get a sitter?)
I was thinking I would go out with D2 Thursday, and then "put off" D3 tell him maybe next week bc this weekend is Easter? (which is true I have plans with my family Sat night)
Re: Now what do I do?
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This!!
Agreed.
ha! You're not the first person to say that, but it's so not true... I just want one great guy! I really like ND too so far. Dating is hard yo.
I feel like a playa this week myself...I have THREE dates wtih THREE new dudes?! Totally unexpected, but I figured why not? I just want one really great guy, too, but I've gotten tired of putting all my eggs in one basket. I figure I can date multiple people and then narrow it down as I go (or it will just naturally narrow itself down if none of them go well).
I totally say go out with all of them, but dude #3 you can go out wtih next week. It can't hurt at this point, even if you do have a great date #2 with ND!
I say if you can swing it go out with all of them BUT I think my advice is a little different because you are a single mom. I know, for me, it sounded nice in theory to date a lot of people but in reality I simply did not have enough time. I think if you go out with all of them and still like ND the best, don't keep trying to date around. I'm not saying get exclusive with ND but if your heart tells you that you just want to see him, I say go that route.
I've juggled before and frankly it is exhausting and I just don't have enough time or energy for it. I remember being on the phone with one guy while another was calling in and it was crazy. I liked one guy way more so I just told the other guy I couldn't go out with him. I get pulled in enough different directions as a single mom without juggling various men.
If you are not really interested in the other guys and you know it for sure, I would cancel the date.
If you want to have another round of date with them better know them before cutting ties, I say go on a date with all three. My biggest advise would be to be prepared to say something to cut ties after the date if you are not feeling like you want continue with them. The sooner you do it, then sooner out of the way they be. Also, it gets less messy that way too.
ugh, I think ND just blew me off
I hate dating
What happened?
We texted a bit yesterday (he initiated) and then I texted him this morning to see if Friday would work for him so I could get a sitter. (on our date he asked if I could do Thursday and I couldn't so I suggested Tu or Fri. He said he had to check his schedule). He texted me back "I'll have to get back to you". And that was it. Maybe I'm overreacting but it feels like a blowoff.
He could just be really busy at work...
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5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I totally agree it could be a million things... but I also think he could have said it differently. "I'll have to check, can I let you know <tonight>, <tomorrow>" would've taken the same amount of time. I don't know, just getting a bad feeling...
I know but sometimes when I am really busy at work I sound short without meaning to be. Either way, keep us updated.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Good advice, but easier said than done. Hard to not get excited about someone after 3 months straight of bad dates
Oh I completely understand! I've been there before but everytime I was disappointed I always told myself something better was coming along.
awesome advice!