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16 & Pregnant 4/3
Wow. The father in this episode is beyond pathetic. I hope he is really embarrassed watching himself, though he seems way too self absorbed to care. His parents should be ashamed for letting their son be so absent from his responsibilities. When he said, "So I'm being forced to get a job?" I wanted to slap him. Ugh. So immature.
I understand Brianna was going through some rough emotions about things not working out with him and being left on her own, but for her to say more than once that she would've had an abortion is so wrong to me. I can't imagine how that baby would feel seeing her say that. When she said it while she was pregnant, I thought she may feel differently once she had the baby but for her to sit there holding her 2 month old daughter saying she should have gotten an abortion is so awful to me.
Brianna is lucky to have such an awesome mother.
Re: 16 & Pregnant 4/3
I think that girl is suffering from some serious PPD. The babys father is probably the worst teen dad I've ever seen on this show, and there have been some doozies, including Adam who said he wanted to sign his rights away (though that was in Teen Mom and not in 16 & Pregnant). Adam at least realized his mistake and stepped up and is being a good dad to Aubree. This dad ... man. How do you consciously get someone pregnant and then ignore them for months, have the audacity to think you have some say in the name, and then the DAY AFTER she gives birth you go and decide to play basketball? I know that some fathers go home and take a shower or a nap or whatever because the hospital beds/couches aren't comfortable, but I can't imagine going to play basketball.
The abortion talk ...I think comes from her being depressed. She said a few times that she's tired of being "sad." She def needs some help. I'm hoping that either her OB or her pediatrician are going to treat her for that. I'm really interested in seeing the follow up special because I want to see if she ever got help.
I felt really sad for her sister, who had an abortion and then watched her sister go through her pregnancy. I think it was a good look at "the grass is always greener on the other side." When they were putting the crib together, Brit said that she sometimes regrets having the abortion ... and then after Nova was born Bri said that she wished she had made the choice Brit made. I'm wondering if some of Bri's troubles was that she knew that Brit was regretful for not having her own child.
Their mother is fantastic. I was so impressed with her and keeping herself together with what her girls had done/gone through. I would be so hurt if I had a daughter who got pregnant and instead of telling me went and got an abortion. I would DEF feel like a failure - not because my daughter got pregnant, because mistakes happen and life happens, but because she didn't feel comfortable enough to TELL me that she was pregnant and had to go and make that decision on her own. The fact that they were supposed to have 2 babies in the house and not just 1 I think weighed heavily on all of them. I wonder if Brit and Bri knew each other was expecting before Brit made the decision and if she had known if she would've made the same decision. Brit said that she had her abortion and she didn't expect to have to see a newborn in the house. Brit looked like she would've been a great mom, though. When Bri was so overwhelmed with Nova crying and called for her mom, Brit came in and stepped in and just seemed to have this natural motherly instinct.
Agree that the dad was beyond pathetic and showed no interest in anything. I think she should have given up if he hadn't talked to him in months and suddently expected him to be there. I'm surprised he was there at the birth, but it was definitely wrong of him to go play basketball the next day. Who does that? And yet he invited her to dinner to discuss things 2 months later and didn't even show up? Also agree that he had no right to get in a tiff over the birth certificate, maybe when she needs child support from him he will take a paternity test.
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I definitely agree that the baby's father is a sad excuse for a human being. Even when him and his friend came over to see the baby, he was so rude by texting and not paying attention to Brit or his daughter or her mom...I hope she gets some child support from him...Kudos to her mom and sis for being there for her. I hope she continues to go to school and finishes!!
This episode broke my heart. I also think she was most likely suffering from PPD. When she kept saying "I'm too young to be doing this" I just wanted to give her a big hug. Taking care of a newborn is tough work, I had a hard time of it at 26 plus your hormones and emotions are all over the place. I can't imagine doing it at 17.
I did cringe when she mentioned she wished she had an abortion, for the fact that her daughter might see it one day. But I really do think it was that she was depressed and overwhelmed. She obviously loves her daughter and seemed to be taking good care of her. Her mom was great. It's so refreshing to see a supportive family.
The "dad" if you want to call him that was awful. I don't understand how someone can be so lazy. I also wanted to slap him when he said he was being forced to get a job. Uh, hello, you graduated high school, aren't in college and got your girlfriend pregnant...what else should you be doing?!
Normally a lurker on this board, but had to comment after watching last nights episode.
Totally agree that this is by far the worst "dad" we've seen yet on this show...my DH even was watching and comment on how awful he was.
Also, PPD seems likely; and I was wondering last night why that's an issue that never seems to be address/brought up in this show EVER. New mom's, with great support from their partners etc have problems and I think that would be even more compounded with all the drama etc of being a teen mom. Why isn't this ever addressed? Just curious...
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ITA with this. I know it doesn't happen to all women (or in this case girls), but it happens alot and I can't imagine that she is the first one to experience these symptoms. I think everyone suffers from a little at first, but she was the worst.
To piggyback on what everyone said, he was a doucher, but then I am also surprised there havent been more like him as well on the show...a teenager who acted his age. I was so upset for her when he stood her and the baby up at the restaurant. I wanted to shake her and say SAY ITS DONE AND NEVER WANT TO SEE HIM AGAIN!!
This episode was good to show young wannabe moms that it doesn't always work out as nicely as it seems on some of these shows. Thank goodness for her mother. That girl would have been a bigger hot mess than she already was.
I have to say, I think everybody's being a little harsh about her comment. I don't think she meant it at all as if she didn't love her daughter or regretted her being. I saw it more as things weren't as easy and hunky-dory as she expected them to be and given the choice to go back and change things, she would. If she said that she should have used protection would that have been so terrible?
I just felt really bad for the sister who had terminated her pregnancy and then had to sit there and watch Bri be the center of attention and have everything Brit gave up.
I also have to say that I really thought Bri was super annoying. She was whiney and had to be the center of attention at all times.
ditto all of this. she even SAID it's not that she regrets having her daughter. i think it was more of a "hindsight is 20/20" thing, and if she knew then what she knows now....she probably would have chosen abortion. it's sort of the same thing as when parents file "wrongful life" lawsuits against doctors.
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God I loved this episode for it's healthy dose of reality. I think this episode showed that unprotected sex has real consequences whether you keep the baby or not if you get pregnant. It also showed that a guy who says he will be there for the babylon might not even be there for the pregnancy.
My heart breaks for that whole family. The mother who moved her girls to give them a better life. Then the heart wrenching reality that both girl has to face while seeing the other choice play out in front I'd them..
If I was a teenager engaged in sexual activity and not mature/ confident enough to insist on protection this episode would scare me sh!tless. Good job for finally making this show a PSA MTV!
Maybe I'm showing my age, but why the heck didn't Bri just CALL deadbeat when she was in the restaurant waiting for him? Texts can get so easily lost, ignored, etc. He probably wouldn't have answered given his track record, but that always bugs me with these girls. They text text text the baby daddy and cry when they're ignored. Get these boys on the phone and make them explain their shitty behavior!
Also, for the 2 scenes that Devon was in, he wouldn't look at Bri, and she wouldn't look at him. The whole conversation in the restaurant was weird with them not making eye contact. This is a serious conversation you're having, act like it.