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I'm getting my kitty's ashes back today.
I'm having DH pick them up from the vet for me. I can't. I can't believe it's all I will have of him. I keep crying. I ordered a Willow Tree Kindness (girl) figurine. It's a girl holding a cat. I think I am going to put it in my china hutch next to a picture of my cat. I haven't decided what to do with the ashes. I have thought about an urn, but I haven't found anything that I love yet.
Thank you for all your kind words the other day. They mean so much to me. It's wonderful getting support from people who truly love their animals. Some of my friends think I am the biggest baby, they feel like I should be over it by now, and I can't help but cry often. The pain in my heart is greater than I ever thought it would be, and I can only hope it starts to fade soon.
Re: I'm getting my kitty's ashes back today.
I think the Willow Tree Girl is a great symbol to help remember your kitty.
What ever you decide to do with the ashes, your kitty will always be with you!
Sending you the world's biggest hugs. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. When my cat died 3 years ago, I honestly felt like the world was falling apart around me. I have never cried so hard and for so long in my life. The first two weeks were agony. No other loss in my life (and I've had many) has affected me in such a visceral way.
You'll figure out something to do with the ashes that will be meaningful and appropriate for you, and for your kitty. In my case, we dug a small hole in the garden of my parents' house, and sprinkled the ashes there, then buried them. I then purchased a small, pretty birdbath to place on top of the spot. My cat used to LOVE watching birds out the window, and once she actually managed to escape from the house and kill one (which I felt horrible about at the time). This might be kind of mean but I figured my cat would love nothing more than to lay below some innocent birds bathing and stalk them in her afterlife
What's crazy is, from time to time the birdbath falls over. I swear to god it's my cat's spirit, knocking it out of the way to chase the birds 
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I totally hear you on this. It was hard when I lost my cat and felt like some people just didn't understand how awful it was for me. Having people who understood really helped me too. Know that at least around here, your pain is completely understood and many of us have unfortunately been in your shoes before too.
It well get easier, bit by bit. Hang in there.