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Kind of intro...
I have been here for awhile. Mostly look, rarely post. Just looking for advice.
My last bf and I were together 5 years and I took a long time off of dating. We'd been broken up just shy of a year when I met TheGuy. Now. This guy seems perfect. We have the same goals in life. We have the same value about everything that important. It feels like fate that we ran into each other and we keep remarking that maybe soul mates do exist.
Before you ask, I am 36, he is 45. I have not married as I have never felt that connection. He is divorced, but wants to get married again, with the right connection.
All this sounds awesome right? We haven't had sex or said love you's, but hes very sweet and amazing to me. Whats the issue. I have known him THREE DAYS.
Is this fast? We're not planning on intro'ing our kids soon or moving or being stupid or anything, but the feelings are overwhelming. Could things really start and work out this way?
Re: Kind of intro...
C'mon. Three days? You don't know someone after three days. You simply don't.
You may know that he seems wonderful, and that there's an attraction, and that you're interested in pursuing something. But you don't know this person yet. You know what he's chosen to show you, and vice versa. See where this goes. Don't jump into anything crazy yet. See what he's like over time; see how your relationship morphs over time.
It's possible that this might be the start of something wonderful. And if that's the case, great. But it's the start. Cool your jets and get to know the guy.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
yes, three days is fast. really, really fast. slow your roll and see what happens.
i would avoid using words like perfect, fate and soul mate because that means you have your love goggles on and won't see him for who he truly is.
ha ha ha... is this a serious question? Is three days fast? Yes. Sure things could work out. Or they could not.
You say you have known him three days. You KNOW nothing about him. So my answer is NO this cannot happen. Maybe you can have a spark.. a strong spark..
My experience is the ones that start off so strong also end just as quickly. I would hope to GOD you don't introduce kids after three days and you say you won't.. but when will you.. what is acceptable to you? a week? two weeks. I just say slow the F down and enjoy it.